Contacting social services over DS

[Britsbg]

If you had a DC in their mid 20’s who had ASD and told you they was moving out to live in a rented house. Would you contact adult social services if you had deep concerns about them being able to cope living independently or would you wait to see how it plays out before taking the next steps?

Is them living alone a genuine risk?

Depends on how their asd affects them.

What’s the risk?

So many variables. I have sons with ASD and they’ve lived independently with no issues but ASD is a spectrum and no two people are the same.
What are the concerns?

Have they got the money for a deposit?

What are your deep concerns?

I think it depends on what the concerns are?

Its also worth mentioning that there is other options than doing nothing or adult social services. Like, working out if family can support? Or is it something that could be taught like cooking meals? Maybe theres a charity that could support? These options might be a bit better than straight to adult social services. Unless of course the risk is huge.

No. I would sit down and make a list of things to make sure theyve considered and help them to find their independence.

if it doesn’t work out they would be welcome back home

Depends on the nature of the "deep concerns". Are we talking, is likely to struggle with making a phonecall to set up a gas bill/gets so focused on special interests they won't put the bins out? Or is it at the level of, they're moving into a house share with dodgy people and are vulnerable to exploitation?

If it was the former, I'd try to offer help myself, maybe see if there were local charities that night help, and make my peace with some things slipping a lot. If the latter, yes, I'd be contacting every service I could.

We have no way of knowing if:

1. He's completely incapable of living alone to the point that he'd suffer irreparable harm within a few hours;
2. You're completely overreacting to an adult who is completely capable of looking after himself in every possible way.

It's probably somewhere in the middle - none of us know where.

If it's 1, we'd obviously call social services now. If it's 2, we wouldn't. Without knowing you or him, no one can give you good advice.

You could ask about support, and tell them the exact nature of your concerns. I don't see anything unreasonable about that.

My sister has learning difficulties which made it a really bad ide for her to live on her own and she didn't cope at all. Eventually support was put in place and her house is no longer hoarded. I'm not sure that she copes exactly, but she is as close as she will ever be. It might be the case that you need to show that a disaster is in progress, rather than predicting one, though. I dont think there is the funding for much preventative work .

I am not sure what social services can do really? Does he understand what moving out entails?

Lot more information needed. Does he have a job, can he afford the rent?