Throw away account for obvious reasons
CM through child maintenance options has been in effect for years due to ex underpaying.
He has now stopped paying and is in arrears. We have been blocked on everything so cannot make contact
Turns out he and his family are moving abroad - imminently.
So they have sold up and are starting a new life. My child is not aware of the situation. He hasn't been told, he's been blocked as well.
If my child stays in education until they're 20 (which is the plan) CM should have continued for another few years.
Ex is moving to a REMO country. I have 2 options.
Make an emergency application to the court, requesting CM be paid in full (under the previous agreement with CMO) until they turn 20. Obviously state that we have been blocked from contacting him and this indicates he aims to leave the country without paying a penny more.
Or I just leave it. I can provide for my child, that's not an issue. It maybe more stress than it's worth?
YABU - just leave it be
YANBU - Go to court.
So as not to drip feed. My child currently has no contact. Ex expected them to contact him all the time, my child felt this was unfair, that it's not their responsibility to chase their father constantly.
We were never able to have a civil relationship because he has a narcissist personality. I tried to facilitate a relationship between him and DC but there was always an excuse and then others were told I was alienating him from his child.
I have been an absolute mess. I am beyond broken that yet again my child is being forgotten. Treated like they don't exist. I will have to have a conversation with them soon to explain exactly has left the country and I'm so angry I'm in this shitty position all over again. Just when I thought I was done crying over how this man treats his child, he's back, doing it all over again!