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To be totally pissed off with this comment from a supposed friend?

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electra · 28/05/2008 22:17

I had a conversation with a male friend on MSN. He apparently thinks that I'm a liability because I'm supposedly bipolar and I have two children and that I'm lucky I'm good looking because if I wasn't no man would ever be interested in me again and I would be single for the rest of my life.

He said my life hangs on my face and boobs

I'm probably being over sensitive and should ignore, of course. But I thought he was a friend. Is this the general view of people everywhere?

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Seashell71 · 28/05/2008 23:14

Electra, maybe he was trying to say what he thinks some men might think, it probably isn't his own opinion IYSWIM.

Don't know why but makes me think of when I was out with my then bf, we were at the exciting early stages of our relationship and he said to me "Since splitting up with x I've decided to not go for looks again but for personality"...

milkgoddessmakesthefinestmilk · 28/05/2008 23:23

you know he might sort of be trying to tell you you'll be lucky to get any bloke you can[ie him] beings you have with kids etc.

delete him off of your friends list imo.

milkgoddessmakesthefinestmilk · 28/05/2008 23:23

you know he might sort of be trying to tell you you'll be lucky to get any bloke you can[ie him] beings you have with kids etc.

delete him off of your friends list imo.

mummylin2495 · 28/05/2008 23:29

my sister is bi polar and has two teenage kids and has just got a new boyfriend who is 22 yrs YOUNGER than her !!!!

Lauriefairycake · 28/05/2008 23:42

Do you choose your enemies this well

ignore him, he is a twonk (and he's probably pissed off you haven't given him the 'benefit' of your body)

electra · 29/05/2008 00:01

Yes, I think I will put him on extinction. He genuinely doesn't realise how unacceptable it is to say stuff like that...

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getbackinyouryurtjimjams · 29/05/2008 00:02

@ put him on extinction.

I avoid anyone who makes me randomly feel worse about things. Life's too short.

electra · 29/05/2008 00:03

Absolutely, Jimjams

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KayHarker · 29/05/2008 00:04

And the definition of 'friend' is what, exactly? Because if it's 'git who says really nasty things to me and treats me with contempt', then I think we should find a new definition for enemy, tbh.

electra · 29/05/2008 00:09

lol - I agree, oddly enough though I've known him for years. You're right though. I wouldn't dream of saying such a thing. The problem with him is that he says everything that pops into his head which obviously is not socially acceptable.

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MrsJohnCusack · 29/05/2008 00:09

what a wanker

StealthPolarBear · 29/05/2008 06:18

No, you are not being over sensitive! Unless there's a lot more to the conversation that we don't know and totally changes his context...no, I can't even imagine what that might be.
He's an idiot

YeahBut · 29/05/2008 06:35

He's a tosser. And he's trying to lower your expectations far enough so that he becomes attractive.

sleepyeyes · 29/05/2008 11:00

He is no friend very nasty and cruel, and VERY small minded.
If I was you I would delete him from your Msn friends and your life.

BouncingTurtle · 29/05/2008 11:13

What a horrible thing to say! Agree with others, you don't need friend like him!

NotQuiteCockney · 29/05/2008 11:15

Yeah, my first impulse was 'he fancies electra, and she doesn't fancy him back - so he's being a shit'.

Not a friend.

electra · 29/05/2008 12:04

Yeah, I think you've hit the nail on the head tbh. Thanks all of you - it's amazing how something so silly can get you completely down....but I think that has to do with my state of mind at the moment.

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SummatAndNowt · 29/05/2008 12:34

what a horrible, obnoxious fuckwit.

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