To expect a little more help - allergy

[3rdtimearoundtheblock]

I've just started weaning my EBF 6m old.
She had a bit of a dodgy poo after some full fat greek yog but I thought not a lot of it. 2 days later I gave her Weetabix with a small bit of milk and she had a reaction (aware it was two allergy foods, blame 3rd child complacency and lack of sleep) she ate maybe a teaspoon and 20 mins later came out in hives around her mouth. Had a green poo about 30 mins after that. Otherwise happy in herself.

Now to my AIBU I booked a GP appt to I guess get some support/referral. The GP googled the milk ladder in front of me (the link that was sent via text is geared to toddlers and everything I've googled says not to do this until after 12m) and sent me on my way. I protested a little and asked whether I should just avoid dairy all together - he said no try something to confirm the allergy, I asked whether it might get worse with each reaction and whether I needed a referral and he basically said come back if it does.
So, I tried a little yoghurt again today and again 3 hours later she came out in hives on her face (and a spot in her eye brow) calmed down about 20mins later, no obvious discomfort and she's not had a poo yet (farts stink though 🫣)

Aibu to expect a little more direction or help in how to reintroduce. I eat a lot of dairy and suspected when she was tiny something might have been up but she kind of grew out of it.
Do I just indefinitely avoid dairy and introduce it slowly after 12m or try eggs and cheese etc. do I go back to the drs...I'm terrified she has a bad reaction.

You're not being unreasonable, it doesn't sound as though he was especially helpful. I would chase this with a different doctor and ask for a tertiary referral and also contact allergy charities. They're probably better placed to provide advice on what to actually do. Wishing you all the best.

Do what he told you and go back

Do you have a health visitor or baby clinic? GP are general, I find someone that is used to working with children more helpful and have more up to date advice

Yanbu.

"....no try something to confirm the allergy," . He should be struck off. Parent of child with epi-pen here.

I do, I think I'll message my HV. Sounds like she might be able to sign post me in the right direction. Thanks👍🏼

Im kind of glad I'm not being unreasonable. I was obviously concerned about anaphylaxis (I actually asked if I should do it in the carpark of the hospital) and while reluctant to try something today I kind of thought maybe I was imagining it or she was allergic to something on the cloth I wiped her face with.
I'm going to message my Health Visitor and/or ask for another appt with a different Dr.
I think I assumed I'd just get a referral to get a skin prick test to find out what she's actually reacting to. Im not sure I should just be randomly giving her cheese/eggs/baked milk and hoping for the best.

Ask for a referral to paediatric allergy clinic, you have that right. If they refuse ask for their GMC number and reasoning.

DD has dairy allergy. Hers was different because she had the issue from birth and was EBF so I had to give it up too. If you eat dairy and DD didn't react to your milk then that is a good sign.

In general, NHS was crap. No support, no official testing, nothing. And I have a very, very, very good GP and local service around us. The provision is just useless for allergies that aren't urgent/emergency situations.

I'm not a doctor but, from our experience, I'd recommend having no dairy for a few months. Give her a malted milk biscuit a day and work up from there. The milk ladder is very simple to follow. DD is 3 now and got past malted milks for the first time last week! She's getting cheesy now!

It does suck though and you have my sympathy.

Allergy UK are amazing - they’ll give you a free call with a dietician who will talk you through it all (and send a copy of advice to your GP!).

But otherwise, introduce the other allergens asap but very carefully (tiny amounts).

Give it a few months and start the milk ladder

I do not find the NHS helpful in this area tbh. My DH has a few anaphylactic allergies and the NHS website says to check with a HCP before weaning with a family history like that. The HV and the GP just looked at me like I was mad for asking. DD1 vomited when given eggs - they didn’t care at all.
Then when DD2 kept coming out in hives, the allergy clinic declined the referral despite the family history of DH having several severe allergies.

3rd we did some oral nut tests in the hospital car park. BUT that was only after the skin prick tests had given DS the all clear for those particular nuts and the allergy consultant said it was safe to do so. And he had an epi-pen for his other allergies.