My overactive mind

[VanWilderness]

Disclaimer: I've name changed for this and also, it's not an overly serious post just looking for someone with a little sanity to keep me right 😅

Basically, my libido has taken a knock over the last ten months. Still have regular periods and have not been tracking ovulation. Cycles are shorter by a day or so. I just haven't felt in the mood for sex, like at all. Then one day last week I did begin to feel the urge but we were staying with DHs family. The strangest thing happened - MIL got out the family photo album and it was lovely to look back on photos of DH's childhood (I've enjoyed many photo albums of him over the years). But then when MIl began to say look at the age of my baby boy now, he'll always be my boy, I don't know why but I developed this ick reaction 😂 she has referred to him as her baby boy many times. Then when she got out her wedding album she said about how a friend of hers "lost three sons" in one year (as in they got married🙄). Then on the last day of visit, mil said about my big 40th approaching and joked about how I'll be having hot flushes and then started saying about periods and hair changes. I'm well aware this isn't serious stuff, just asking for a little advice on slightly strange scenarios where your mind is in overdrive and you are reacting to things in a different way. I've also noticed my anxiety levels increasing substantially, I get visibly frustrated and angry with real world problems (who doesn't) and sometimes feel overwhelmed. I just don't know why these remarks have caused such a strange reaction am i losing the plot? - Yes YABU No YANBU

Peri maybe?

I imagine it is (39). My anxiety is through the roof and I sometimes don't recognise myself. Then the berating and telling myself I'm ungrateful.
Then there are times where i feel some ease and last week was one of them but this strange reaction where the baby boy comments just turned me right off 😅

I could have written this post. Im 40 in January and my libido has fallen through the floor, into the basement and is laying in the foundations. Peri is a good reason… bloody awful 😞

I'm 39 next week and feel exactly like this😒

Thanks for sharing. Did you notice it changing or was it like this sudden realisation? It's dawned on me that for like 10 months, I've rarely contemplated sex. Was watching Untamed the other night and not even Eric Bana was doing anything for me lol hope youre doing okay

Definitely sounds like perimenopause which started late 30s for me.

there is a huge amount you can do with diet and how you exercise though.

I found the XX brain book useful. Karen Newby on Instagram. a couple of the Zoe podcasts etc. reduce ultra processed foods as much as possible.

a friend and I were discussing how we had to adapt our diets and we both agreed that ways that would help stabilise blood sugar seemed to help the most. Lots of fibre and protein, especially at breakfast for example. Focus on building strength as more muscle helps there too, and helps bones etc. I think that’s helped my libido too. Certainly confidence and focus. I’m not on hrt due to breast cancer, and am on tamoxifen.

make sleep the biggest priority!

I’ve not had period for 3 months now (I’m sure one will come soon though!) and definitely feel more balanced

irritation, ick and rage were definitely early peri issues that I don’t seem to have now. But I wasn’t really aware of how much diet and lifestyle could help.

@VanWilderness most definitely a sudden realisation. My husband works away a lot and when he’s home, I just cannot think of anything I’d rather do less, which sounds terrible. I have zero desire - it’s like my brain has flipped a switch and nothing gets me “in the mood”. My anxiety is worse than it’s ever been as well, which is saying something (I was on citalopram previously), but Im worried about EVERY LITTLE THING. Hope you’re ok too 🌷