To think men would rather be respected than loved?

[TheQuickOchreBear]

It seems like what most men crave isn’t affection or love, it’s respect. They’ll tolerate being disliked but not being disrespected. AIBU to think respect matters more to them than love ever could?

I think most men just want regular sex, someone who agrees with them and somewhere decent to live that miraculously cleans itself, and has a full fridge.

But I'm fairly cynical. It's my age. 😊

That's about 4 billion people you're talking about

I’m so sorry you have met so many men like that. From my experience I would say what you’ve experienced is unusual as I’ve not come across this. On balance I would say in my group of friends and previous relationships the men have expressed their love a lot more readily and romantically than the women! But that’s just a generalisation based on my experience.

If you look at famous male singer/songwriters I would say that most of the lyrics are about love rather than respect!

They just want to get everything their own way and someone to blame and sort things out when they fuck up.

Ah the weekly man hating thread.

Well that's a huge generalisation.

If I look at my 30-something son and his friends, I don't recognise what you're saying.

If I look at some of the threads on here I've no bloody idea what the men want or why the women are with them

If I look at the men I know in my generation who have happy marriages, I'd say they want a deep friendship, someone who shares some of their interests and someone who makes them laugh and doesn't do drama.

If I look at the men I know in my generation whose wives are unhappy, I'd say the men are after an ego boost and a life where they can do whatever they want.