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Farewell gift from work - best and worst

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Flashbackcringe · 07/08/2025 08:59

Name changed as outing but what's the best/worst/cringe farewell gift you've received or contributed to for a work farewell?

Light hearted - hugs to those who haven't received, etc. Posting here for traffic.

Mine? Colleague worked at the place for 3 months and they asked for (and we duly delivered) gift voucher for the fancy bra shop next door 😆

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somethingandnothing · 08/08/2025 16:37

Y2ker · 08/08/2025 14:09

I've worked in various press officers and newspapers and my favourite thing to do is put together a spoof front page of a newspaper for anyone leaving, featuring photos and funny things from their time there. You need to make sure they will see the funny side though!

This is exactly the type of thing I meant in my post – I was really looking forward to receiving one when I left and was pretty upset to not get one after six years there and thinking I had good relationships with colleagues. It really made me rethink how they saw me and I pulled away a bit from them afterwards (I haven't made an effort to go to any 'reunion' nights out I've since been invited to etc)

CoralOP · 08/08/2025 16:39

Aw I'll add one for my dad here, he worked at the same factory most of his life, did every bit of overtime they asked of him, would never ring in sick, put his job over his family wayyy more than he ever should of, he was so proud and grateful to work there everyday.

Came to his retirement and nothing....absolutely nothing, no card, present, thank you, he was heartbroken, I actually rang his manager to say wtf is wrong with them, he said sorry and they had just been busy. 🙄

Softdressesandblouses · 08/08/2025 16:51

crowsfeet57 · 07/08/2025 14:52

I worked there for 10 years and left to have a baby. I got a plate with the babies details on it. Colleagues who had babies got car seats or carry cots. The difference? After 11 years of infertility and failed ivf, I was adopting a beautiful 4 week old baby baby.

Our 'lovely' manager also sent a beautifull teddy bear to all my colleagues when their babies were born. My son didn't get one of those either. Thirty six years on it still brings me to tears.

I hear you and feel your pain. Both my best friend and I struggled for some years to get pregnant. When she eventually had her baby daughter, I was so overjoyed for her and honoured to be chosen as godmother. The next few years saw me continuing to not conceive but I poured heart, soul, lots of time and not a little money into my lovely goddaughter. I showered her with lots of lovely gifts. Eventually, and amazingly, my DH and I were able to adopt our beautiful baby boy. His arrival gift from my friend was a £2.50 t shirt from Woolworths (and no, she was definitely not short of money at all) and his first birthday gift was a dinky car. It is a painful memory, but sometimes it takes a very special event like an adoption for people to show their true colours and it was just as well you left that place! 🌸

Theteenandme · 08/08/2025 16:51

Bjorkdidit · 07/08/2025 09:40

I'll never forget the woman on here a few years ago who was apparently given a 'wand' that was claimed to cost about £100, so all the money in her collection, but was visually indistinguishable from a stick that a dog or child might pick up in the woods.

Unfortunately I don't think there was ever any explanation as to whether it was a gag gift and she was eventually given her proper gift or if someone had been ripped off somewhere, but on the face of it, it appeared that someone had thought that it was a good leaving gift for that poster.

There is a ceramic artist who now makes wands. They are literally sticks from her local park that she paints basic designs on eg dots etc and sells them as charms.

I used to like her ceramics and have bought a few of her small pieces. I have no interest in sticks.

They cost several hundred each and presumably she makes a living from them because she has stopped doing ceramics. I've got to admit I'm jealous that she has found a niche.

MumofSpud · 08/08/2025 17:02

When I left my school (bullying issues) they got me a £20 Amazon voucher
I bought a fake orchid and placed it opposite my toilet so whenever I do a s**t I think of them!

Chattie89 · 08/08/2025 17:20

I once worked for a lovely small team but sadly we were all managed by a total psychopath. She suggested whole team went out for lunch on my last day which was nice and I briefly thought slightly more of her. This company was very well off and leaving lunches were always covered by the company, which HR liked to brag about. Except mine, she paid the bill then emailed all of us back at the office asking for our share. She had even divided up the service charge according to who spent what so we were all 100% accountable for our bit. Then she left the office without saying goodbye to me on my last day. I'd worked for her for 5 years.

Climbingrosexx · 08/08/2025 17:27

Not sure this fits into this thread as I got nothing apart from a "goodbye and all the best" (from those that could be arsed) and was the last one to leave the office, everyone walked out while I was still working because I ended up stuck on something that I felt I had to finish. Pofessional to the end 😆

SecretNameforMN · 08/08/2025 17:31

I worked at a place for 20 years, always contributing to every collection for retirements , birthdays, etcetera. I was medically retired after an accident at work and was extremely disappointed that my colleagues didn't get me a single thing, not even a card. And nobody ever came to see me or contacted me in any way after my employment was terminated.

LastKnownSurvivor · 08/08/2025 17:55

Best was a voucher for afternoon tea for two in a posh venue associated with a hobby of mine.

Worst has always been flowers - not that I dislike flowers, but I have cats who destroy any flowers in the house, so I have to put them in the spare room and don't get the benefit of them (the flowers not the cats!).

Allseeingallknowing · 08/08/2025 18:45

There are some mean, cold, unfeeling barstewards in this world! It’s so hurtful that someone isn’t appreciated, especially when other colleagues are spoiled on their last day.

NotMyRealAccount · 08/08/2025 19:42

3678194b · 08/08/2025 14:24

Worst was nothing. That's what you get working in the NHS for 20 years!

When I retired from my final substantive NHS role, I was pleasantly surprised to get an engraved crystal tumbler and a nice handwritten thank you letter from the Patient Participation Group. It made me think that although I'd clashed with the hierarchy regularly over the decades, I'd mostly managed to do the right thing for the people who mattered.

FastMauveQuoter · 08/08/2025 19:51

When I retired after 20 years, they took me out for a lovely meal with loads of the staff. Also, got a voucher for a 2 night stay including breakfast in a fabulous countryside hotel. Also flowers, cards etc. I felt really appreciated xx

Flashbackcringe · 08/08/2025 19:52

Roothewheel · 08/08/2025 16:24

But it isn’t private companies that pay out for the gifts
it is the human beings working there

so it’s not the NHS’s fault. It’s the fact that the human beings working there don’t wish to make an effort or contribute

It takes foresight to sort a leaving gift and card - I guess maybe a lot of teams (NHS or not) just don't have the bandwidth

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Flashbackcringe · 08/08/2025 19:54

SecretNameforMN · 08/08/2025 17:31

I worked at a place for 20 years, always contributing to every collection for retirements , birthdays, etcetera. I was medically retired after an accident at work and was extremely disappointed that my colleagues didn't get me a single thing, not even a card. And nobody ever came to see me or contacted me in any way after my employment was terminated.

I'm sorry this happened to you - just dreadful 💐

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winzomm · 08/08/2025 19:56

Retired now, but over 30 years ago now I got a significant promotion and was moving departments to another location. I was given a substantial amount in a voucher for a well known department store.

I got an eight place setting of just about everything in the Denby Marrakesh (long out of production) design which I still use to this day, every day. Not one bit of it has broken. I have everything you could possibly get and I was absolutely thrilled to be able to buy all that, since I always wanted it but could never prioritise that much expense!

Lovely gang I worked with then, and all through my working life. I was lucky. BTW I made it quite clear that I wanted nothing for my retirement, and just took a holiday and never came back lol!

Flashbackcringe · 08/08/2025 20:00

CoralOP · 08/08/2025 16:39

Aw I'll add one for my dad here, he worked at the same factory most of his life, did every bit of overtime they asked of him, would never ring in sick, put his job over his family wayyy more than he ever should of, he was so proud and grateful to work there everyday.

Came to his retirement and nothing....absolutely nothing, no card, present, thank you, he was heartbroken, I actually rang his manager to say wtf is wrong with them, he said sorry and they had just been busy. 🙄

Man alive wtf is wrong with people? Well done for calling it out! But the hurt can never be undone.

When my singleton aunty retired, I made sure that all her (many) siblings and nieces and nephews all made a huge fuss of her and sorted a retirement gift, cake and balloons delivered to her workplace in case her colleagues hadn't sorted much (thankfully they also had).

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Mydadsbirthday · 08/08/2025 20:38

MaMisled · 07/08/2025 13:24

30 years ago I left my job in a nursing home, at 30wks pregnant with my first baby. ( lots of heavy lifting and no hoists then!) Money was tight. I was presented with....all brand new.... a beautiful moses basket, bedding, vests, nappies, baby bath and wash stuff, 10 gorgeous unisex outfits, hand knitted shawls and cardigans, hats, rattles, flowers, chocolates and much more! I was so overwhelmed and delighted and grateful. My colleagues and the management were amazing.

That's so lovely. You've just reminded me. When I left work to go on maternity leave - was signed off at 30 weeks with twins. My team took me out for dinner and they'd got us two Bumbos. I was so touched and

Mydadsbirthday · 08/08/2025 20:40

Potterwatch89 · 07/08/2025 13:55

Worst one was my husband's first job out of uni in recruitment. They fired him after 3 months as he wasn't hitting their targets, but gave him an iron and an ironing board as a hilarious leaving present (clearly trying to make a point). Nasty and unnecessary.

That is gobsmackingly rude but not really surprising from that environment.

Starling7 · 08/08/2025 20:42

My brother was almost given a blow up sumo suit as a leaving gift. Luckily someone let on, thinking he would love the idea, and he was able to gently derail the plan...

TheBookShelf · 08/08/2025 21:00

When I retired from a longstanding job I was given some very generous gift vouchers relating to a couple of my hobbies. Such thoughtful gifts from a lovely team and I had a great time spending the vouchers. I was really touched.

Many years ago when I left a job after only 10 months (I was moving away from the area) I was given a beautiful piece of crystal which I still have, 40 years later and is still a pleasant reminder of another lovely team.

ChildFreeAndOhSoHappy · 09/08/2025 00:31

I have only been given a leaving gift twice, both times were when I worked abroad and I would prob count both as quite good. First was a 4000 dollar prada handbag. One of my colleagues was absolutely loaded and just organised events as a hobby, she gifted me the bag. However, she didn't realise as a vegan, I don't wear leather, so I ended up selling it a year or so later and giving the money to an animal charity. Another gift was a first class round trip back to the States. Emirates was one of our clients so I'm fairly certain it was free, but still nice and would have cost upwards of 50k had I paid for it, which of course, no.

FloweringBuds · 09/08/2025 00:34

Bottle of vodka for maternity leave- I don't drink even when not pregnant!

WTDress · 09/08/2025 06:11

My last work always used to do those e-cards where you sign and add to the collection on line. I got vouchers, can’t remember the value but must have been alright as I got a Superdry coat, a pair of jeans and a T-shirt with it.

TeapotTallulah · 09/08/2025 07:04

I worked in a hospital for a little while after leaving school. I used to talk to one of the managers about Thomas hardy as I’d done
my English literature A’level on him. I’d read 3 books but not Tess of the D’Urbervilles. He bought me a copy when I left and it was just the most thoughtful thing I’d ever received. He died a few years back and I went to his funeral with my dad (who met him through a friend coincidentally years later). I’ve still got the book over 30 years later and it’s still really special to me.

RobinHumphries · 09/08/2025 07:11

The plastic nameplate off my door

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