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How to deal with a new boss who seems like a bully?

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SoWhereIsTheElusiveWorkman · 06/08/2025 10:51

In a nice professional job for a big well known company. New boss has come in and is either completely clueless in terms of emotional intelligence or a total bully who is ramping up and looking for evidence and weak spots.

Boss has a large number of direct recruits. How do I set protect myself going forward? Am thinking of documenting everything etc. I am in a union but I am not always sure they are brilliant.

Are there good books about protecting yourself or does anyone have advice?

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ThejoyofNC · 06/08/2025 11:04

Hard to say without examples of what you're calling bullying.

zingally · 06/08/2025 11:05

Document everything. EVERYTHING. Any time an interaction makes you feel a bit weird, write it down.
Every interaction you have verbally, that you feel might back-fire, follow up with them via an email for the paper trail.
"Hi Jan, just to follow up on our discussion about X. You said XYZ, so I will action blah blah."

Unfortunately, I had a sociopathic ex-boss, who was a horrible bully. But she was also fairly incompetent. So having everything in documents and emails really helped.

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