CMS can’t verify ex address…delay divorce payment?

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I didn’t seem to have much luck with my post yesterday in Divorce about CMS telling me they can’t verify ex address and likely they will close the case ( I will of course resubmit) so trying AIBU so please be gentle it’s all very upsetting

but ex is likely to start chasing me for the divorce settlement soon - the deadline to pay as per the financial consent order is coming up (I’ll be remortgaging with additional borrowing) ….my question is if he is refusing to verify his address for CMS he’ll need to provide formal proof of address for the transfer of equity form presumably and bank account info for the payment to be made Im inclined to argue then it can’t be paid….AIBU?

if he frustrates the process and I miss the 1st jan deadline to pay him presumably he can’t take me to court / say that I’m in breach of the consent order?

YANBU but can’t you just ask CMS to go through this employer instead?

CMS shouldn’t close the case due to him refusing to acknowledge his address. Give them his employer’s information and everything else you have. Contact your MP today about it as well. They can’t just close the case because he is ignoring them.

But I’d be telling him straight that he needs to sort this out and contact CMS. What’s he said to you to explain himself?

thanks for your replies - so ex husband is telling me is out of work. CMS yesterday said “waiting for his employer to verify his address” - if his employer doesn’t respond within 14 days they close the close. There is no way of forcing the employer apparently to comply with the request?

I had been giving him the benefit of the doubt about being out of work - stupid I know - but now I’m starting to think he is lying

I asked him last week if he had an update on finding a job he said no - he tells me he is at his parents but I have know way of knowing for sure. They haven’t bothered to contact me since the dah he walked out 4 years ago (charming after being together 20 years but abandonment clearly runs in the family)

Are you sure it’s his employer? Where did they get it from if he’s telling you he’s out of work?

Tell them to go via HMRC

I asked that but the chap at CMS was a bit snippy about my “line of questioning” I was expecting him to say he is on benefits - JSA - it was when he said “employer” it threw me

but if ex won’t answer their communication to confirm address and employer doesn’t confirm then apparently that’s it - close the case. I’d have to reopen it but they don’t back date it either

it’s all very tragic really - he isn’t the man I married and spent 20 years with and had 3 kids with. He hasn’t seen them since “being out of work” either or paid a penny in CMS

I can honestly say there were no red flags in our marriage about the man he was becoming - he changed when I fell pregnant with twins (planned pregnancy after lots of IVF) - he packed his bags and left one day whilst I was shopping when the twins were babies