I'm so depressed after turning down a job

[Nightrainrocketqueen]

Hi,

So a few months ago I was approached on LinkedIn to apply for a new job doing the same role that I do now but for a completely different industry, I thought why not and had 2 interviews (just as an experiment/interview practice etc) long story short I was offered the role , ever so slight pay increase but the company sounded great and had lots of perks etc ,

after agonizing deliberation I turned it down purely out of fear, I have been at my current company 11 years, whilst the role is a little stagnant and there are not masses of development opportunities at the moment (likely to change its very fits and starts where I am),I have no particular complaints there, and have built a good reputation with managers and employees alike as a hard worker and nice person ( not one to cause drama or issues i have a very 'just get on with it' attitude) I'm treated well and never dread turning my laptop on or have Sunday night scaries etc

Also whilst I am not naive enough to believe every job is 100 percent safe these days , I am also aware that any 'worst case scenario' (i.e redundancy) situation would result in a rather generous payout based on company policy which gives me some degree of security.

So that is basically why I decided to stay where I am as although the new job sounded amazing I just kept thinking what if it went wrong.

I haven't lost anything at all but for the past few weeks I have felt really depressed by it which is so silly as I wasn't particularly looking in the first place.

It's also massively demotivated me at my current job and I keep daydreaming about the new opportunity

How do I shake these feelings off

I made my decision for a very practical reason at the end of the day

I think you have made the sensible choice. I've been with my company for a long time and it would take a very generous increase and or huge scope to climb, to make me move because of all the reasons you've mentioned. Redundancy, the devil you know and so on. The grass isn't always greener.

Thank you Marion my exact thoughts, sometimes you just need to hear it from someone else , thanks and have a good evening

In the current economic climate, stability and employment rights are prized albeit intangible, assets. The longer you remain in an organisation, the more valuable those things are.

changing jobs always carries risk, and if you feel that risk wasn't something you werent prepared to take then feel quite pleased with yourself. It may feel disappointing but consider if you'd left and the other job didn't work out, you would be back to square one!

Sorry, typo
if you feel that risk wasn't something you would be prepared to take then you can feel quite pleased with yourself.

I think you've done the right thing. Could have been a short lived stressful job that dominated your thoughts in your time off. You can't put a price on mental health.