To think neighbours should have warned us about loud construction work?

[dampsquib94]

We're in a link detached and the work is going on in their garage, so it sounds like it's in the next room to our bedroom and sitting room. There have been jack hammers going since eight o'clock this morning, pretty much non stop. They KNOW we have a baby, who is unable to sleep and is now having to be taken out for a several hour drive (old enough that this isn't dangerous, thankfully!) to catch up on sleep!

AIBU to think they could at least have sent a text along the lines of "having some work done, might be a bit noisy between (times) over the next (however long)"? It seems to be quite extensive work they're having done, so god knows how many days in a row my child will be expected to sleep in a car in 25-30 degree heat!

AIBU?

Whilst it is basic politeness, I don't think they've been massively unreasonable.

It's absolutely horrendous having a baby that has sleeping problems. So you have my sympathy. But there isn't much prior knowledge could have done to help with your baby?

I've had significantly disruptive works lately. To the point where traffic was impacted for weeks and did cause issues.

I'd told my immediate next door but not over the road or wider neighbours because people always have something to grumble about and it does get tedious.

Hope baby settles and you can get out for some peace and quiet.

They’re not being unreasonable not letting you know, it’s their property and don’t have to revolve things around your baby however it would have been a decent thing to do to let you know. Why don’t you go out for the day or for a walk or something?

Yes, they should have let you know, especially as they are clearly going out to avoid the noise.
FWIW I have severe CFSME which is worsened by excessive noise. If neighbours did this to me I would have to talk to them about time scales etc so I could make alternative arrangements to prevent becoming much sicker.

You can still do that.
Ask the builders how long they'll be there and make a plan for tomorrow/rest of the week

Some people are just inconsiderate neighbours (as some of the replies here suggest). When we had work done we asked the builders to let us know when it was likely to be particularly noisy so we could pass it on to next door. It's obvious people would want the option to get out of the way / change plans to invite people round etc.

No i wouldn’t give notice done this in the past and it was a nightmare
i was as though i had to ask there permission

said they’ll be knocking the back of the house out over the next few days
they gave me various very small time slots where we could do the work
it wasn’t practical so just carried in and they never spoke for years

YABU for bringing your baby into it.

There is a massive difference between "actual total silence" and a jack hammer!!

And just who are you that they have to report in to?

You sound awfully full of your own self importance.

Your neighbours owe you nothing - thats the bottom line.

Why are you putting your baby in a car that is 30 degrees? Why can’t you go and ask how long the noise will go on? YABU

Exactly... Did you report into them to give them a heads up you were planning to have a baby? Because that would affect them, with noise etc.

Yes it would have been nice if they’d given you a heads up given that it’s major work and not just a bit of casual DIY. But perhaps they’ve had bad experiences in the past where giving the neighbours a friendly warning has wrongly been taken as an invitation for feedback so might have thought it better just to crack on, because it would be awkward if you asked them not to make noise between 1 and 3 as that’s nap time and then they have to say no because it would delay the whole project (not saying you would necessarily do that, just that they might be thinking you might!).

I would pop later round and ask them, or go now and ask the builders if you’d rather, how long the work is going to take and how much of that will be very noisy and then make your plan from tomorrow based on that.

Yes they should, out of politeness. However, sometimes it just doesn't occur to people that they're causing a disturbance, so go round and ask if they can let you know how many days it'll be going on for. Maybe their builders could come to an agreement to do the really noisy stuff at certain times.

Just seen that your houses are linked detached. Is it the garages that are linked? If so, it would be absolutely wise to find out what work exactly your NDNs are doing in their garage.

LOL, find out exactly what the NDNs are doing?

I should hope the NDNs tell any nosey sod to fuck off!

Whatever they do in their garage has got fuck all to do with the OP. Or anyone else! The neighbours dont need permission from the OP for work within their own home.

Jeez 😂🤦

We had very noisy work done recently and we didn't warn our neighbours, but it was genuinely because we didn't know: the builder just rocked up one morning and got on with it (we knew it was coming, the neighbours knew it was coming, but nobody knew what day it was going to start or how long it was going to last).

I think it would have been kind to have a heads up but I wouldn't expect it.

I did once tell a neighbour that we needed to get some work done on a particular day and she told me that it 'wouldn't work' to have it on that day so I should move it. And we went in a circle of annoying conversation. So I did think twice before letting my neighbours know last time we had to get something done!

@HelplessSoulit may well do if the work involves a party wall and appropriate documents are not in place.

Re-read what I wrote please.

I said WITHIN their house. There is nothing that needs the OP's certificate of approval for the NDNs.

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Our ndn is doing a total refurb of their house ( terraced). Think beware roof, electrics, walls removed, new ceilings and floors, bathroom and kitchen, boiler moved etc).

So far we have had three months of noise, dust, dust, lack of privacy, scaffolding damage and more, from 7.30am to 7.30pm.

I politely asked that she let us know if it was going to be terribly noisy, so we could go out ( we are at home all day) and that contractors stick to permitted hours.

Neighbour said she couldn't change the hours and now refuses to talk to us. She doesn't live there, and has actually gone off to Europe for 3 weeks.

All I need is a bit of communication and for her contractors to leave my property alone.
I have revised how co-operative a neighbour I shall be in future.

It's awful when you have no control and no idea of when it will end.

How’s it going @dampsquib94? Hope the noise/work doesn’t last too long for you.