Has anyone kept their pregnancy hidden until later on?

[Summer2025gal]

Would love opinions on this. Did you ever regret waiting to tell people you’re pregnant? Are you glad you waited?

I have had a history of losses and also successful pregnancy. We’re planning to ttc soon and hide our pregnancy between us for a little while this time. Each time we’ve been pregnant I’ve told people so early.

Did you ever have close family or best friends upset you didn’t say? I am torn between tell people early because of previous losses but also to wait this time (want to wait until 12 or 20 weeks to tell friends and family)

I kept mine quiet until 20 weeks as had been through a re-structure at work and wanted to be in my new role for 12 weeks. I only went in office one day a week and just wore baggy clothes.

I kept mine a secret until 22 weeks . Nice and peaceful x

Been thinking about this myself recently as DH and I want to start TTC in the new year. I think I’m going to have to tell my immediate family straight away - there is no way I could hide it and I would want their support if anything happened. We have some close local friends who we will probably tell earlier than making it wholly public but not straight away straight away.

Extended family and friends we don’t see often I think we will wait until at least 12 weeks.

I think there’s pros and cons of telling people early and late, I’ve tried both. Depends what your priorities are. Have you any particular concerns about things you might miss out on by not sharing a bit earlier? Or just whether people will be annoyed?

I did! My close family and friends knew (maybe around 4/5 friends) and that’s all. I had quite a small bump (baby was only 4lb when born) so was quite easy to hide until the end stages. I don’t post pictures online of my child (personal preference) so even up to now - 3 years later - some people don’t have a clue until they see me in person!
I loved the intimacy of keeping our baby to ourselves and being in our own bubble without others questioning various things, giving opinions etc!

I also had a number of losses so didn't tell anyone until 20 weeks.
I didn't want to have to tell people if I lost another and have people constantly asking how I was.

We waited until 32 weeks before telling anyone other than my mom, our closest friends and my manager. Told them at 22 weeks.

I am glad we waited, but with hindsight we didn't need to wait as long as we did and friends and family were upset we didn't tell them sooner.

I hid my twin pregnancy from work until after 20 weeks because I wanted to get through appraisal time without them knowing! I wore the same tight dress with a jacket over for weeks as it was the only thing that held me in. The day after I told them, it was stretchy maternity all the way!

I have waited until after 12 weeks for my other pregnancies and don’t regret it. Twice I lost babies before 12 weeks, and I didn’t find my family any less supportive because I hadn’t already told them of the pregnancy; they supported me through the loss just because that’s what they do!

We didn't tell anyone until after the 12 week scan with any of ours. I don't consider that unusual.
A few years ago, SiL (who admittedly we don't see in person due to geography) told us when she was about 7 months pregnant !

We waited until 12 weeks to tell close family and my employer. Then just told others piecemeal when it became obvious.

I thought most people didn't tell anyone until 12 weeks until the first scan I definitely didn't with my 3 pregnancys.

Currently 22w and have told 2 people! Parents/ ILs/ siblings/ work don’t know. I need to tell work next week. We’ve previously been through a traumatic neonatal death and I’ve since learnt there is no safe time.