Best friend of over 25 years, been friends since Year 1 in primary school! She was my maid of honour, our friendship has ebbed and flowed over the years but we’ve always been close. We are both supportive and have both been through rough times (as most people have) and we’ve always helped each other out!
She doesn’t have the best track record with partners, I always joke to her she likes a bit of a bad boy. However, she met someone about 3/4 years ago. They are engaged and have a small child. He has 2 kids of his own from a previous marriage.
I don’t think she’s ever been fully happy with him, to be honest. Their relationship is toxic in my opinion. Constant rows, constant break ups. The issue is for the last 2 or so years now our conversations are solely about her issues with her fiancé. She calls me a couple of times a week to moan. I give her the same advice every time, they are back together the next day.
He has a history of spying through her phone and I feel a bit uncomfortable about him possibly seeing our text messages when she rants to me. He’s been known to cause a fight and they live about 3 roads from me so I worry he will be annoyed that I’m involved during their arguments. I’ve got 2 small children myself and sometimes the regular texts and calls do get on me a bit.
This is the first time she’s been in a toxic relationship, and I know some woman struggle to leave. I don’t want to point blank say I won’t support her, but I also feel like I’m not putting myself first either. Has anyone been in this position?