My partner don't know when to stop drinking

[Mele123]

My partner of 13 years is an alcholic he drinks to get drunk as quickly as he can at home and becomes argumentative or starts getting over emotional , when out at dues and occasions he gets so drunk and I feel embarrassed hes just a nightmare and I can't relax , im so stressed out with all of it , I don't like the person he is when he drinks , I can not cope with it any longer and im considering ending the relationship , I have tried to help him and get him help but he co tinues with false promises to quit, its really hard and I think I have to do what's best for me ?

What’s best for you is to leave him before he completely wrecks your life.

First post nails it

I stayed eleven years with my partner who had an alcohol problem, and I regret this so much.

Leave. This is a horrible existence and it won't get better. It's a no brainer.

What's your financial situation? Do you work?

You cannot reason with an alcoholic.

You'll only drain yourself trying.

Go to Al-Alon and leave him.

You can't make him give up - he has to want to. Maybe if you leave him, it could be the jolt he needs?

What’s best for you? To walk away and not waste another 13 years.

You have one life. This isn't a dress rehearsal, this is all you're going to get. There is an infinity of better ways to spend your limited time on this earth than wasting it with an active alcoholic.

Go to Al-anon x

Do you live together, do you have kids together?

He clearly does not see anything wrong with his drinking. You cannot make him stop drinking so you have to ask yourself do you want to live the rest of your life with a drunk who makes your home life horrible and you ill with stress.

Personally I would leave. It maybe hard in the short-term but in the long run your life will be so much better. Do you have children with him? Do you work? Who owns the property you live at?

He will carry on doing this until he decides he wants to change or he kills himself through the continual abuse of his body.

You cannot save him.
You can save yourself. Leave and move on.

His partner is alcohol, not you.

Leave.