Hello!
for context I had my baby 6 weeks ago. When I was pregnant I asked to see my partners phone (I never have done this before). He got really shady and shakily opened his insta where I could see he had messaged a girl friend of his saying happy birthday. I didn’t see the whole message but I was like oh ok no worries. Also, for context he has had a history of his ex’s messaging him and not telling me. In the early days of our relationship (2 years ago) I also found him on hinge after we had an argument. Overall, our relationship has been a lot better since.
but this is the thing, fast forward 3-4 months the other day we were talking about a pub he liked in London where he hasn’t been for years. I asked him who he went with and he said his friend (the one he had messaged in the past). I asked him if he ever slept with her and he said no but it seemed really off?
last night we had a big row and he said he actually was with this girl for 6 months. Naturally I am pretty pissed off at this point as he had messaged her when I was pregnant, and this would make her an ex?
he is now denying that he was ever with her and said he just said it as I kept talking about it etc and he was pissed off at me.
i am now at a loose end if I trust him or not. And it kinda adds up to why he was so nervous to show me his phone 3-4 months ago?
i understand there is obvs trust issues there. I’m just not sure how to go forward now?
xx