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AIBU to want to say something to neighbour?

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Annie123333 · 04/08/2025 16:08

I’m truly blessed to have a 2-year-old. We worked hard to conceive, and though I faced challenges early on, things have been going well overall. I’m grateful for the support around me. As a first-time mum working in education, I see how some parents struggle, so I take my role seriously. I can be hard on myself, especially now that he’s going through the “terrible twos.” At his two-year checkup, I mentioned this to the health visitor, who reassured me it’s a normal phase.
Last night, after his bath, he refused to let me cut his nails, even though they were long and he’d scratched his eye the night before. I tried everything, but eventually cut them while he cried for about 5 minutes. (I have tried it while he sleeps before anyone says that)

Afterward, a woman from across the street knocked on my door, offering “support” because she thought I was young and alone. I’m 35, and my husband was in the living room with our son, who was fine after the nail trim. I thanked her and explained, then had my husband join us at the door.

Later, I learned from several neighbors that she’d gone to them, claiming concern about my child, saying she’s a social worker. Part of me thinks it’s good she’s looking out for children but another part feels she overstepped. I’m unsure whether I should address it with her or just let it go. Thoughts? Please don’t eat me alive in the comments I genuinely am shocked and don’t know what to do - if anything.

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Sunshineandoranges · 04/08/2025 16:13

I’d say let it go and if you can find it, read Alan Bennett’s short story A lady of Letters or watch it on tv catch-up, probably bbc. Your neighbour sounds like the main character in one of his monologues. You sound like a loving mum.

CyanDreamer · 04/08/2025 16:24

Someone genuinely concerned about a child and who is trying to help?
I'd let it go.

It's annoying but she was trying to care for your child. Just think if she sees him hurt or talking to a stranger she'll intervene.

If your kid is only 2, you need to find distractions or a way to cut nails, because you have years of that fight ahead 😂

If he wakes up when you try while he's asleep, allowing him to watch tv once a week for that can be very useful. The novelty and the screen feels like a treat, not a punishment.

SometimesYouWinSometimesYouLearn · 04/08/2025 16:26

Let it go. She may not remember the " nail drama" or she doesn't have kids. My son was going beserk when trimming his toe nails each time until around 4 🙄. He was yelling like mad

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