To be really upset DH bought DD an electric scooter I said no to?

[AspDude]

I said no because I don’t think she’s old enough (8), and I worry about safety. They’re not toys and I’ve seen how fast they go. DH knew how I felt, we’ve had the conversation more than once. This morning he just handed her one as a surprise while I was making breakfast. Huge excitement, I had to smile through it but I’m livid. He says I’m overreacting and it’s not a big deal but I feel totally undermined. We’re meant to be on the same page with this stuff. I don’t even want her to have it now on principle.

AIBU to be this upset?

The fires can be incredibly violent too. My workmates car was engulfed by a fireball a couple of weeks ago when an e scooter rider ride past with smoke coming out the back, the scooter was ditched and ended up under the car and 5 seconds later it looked like a car bomb had gone off. We've also had 3 flats to up in flames over the last few years due to batteries on bikes or scooters.

I can't believe there isn't anyone out there who doesn't know that these are illegal (to all intents and purposes).

I also can't believe that they are for sale so casually in places like Argos and Curry's when 99% of people have nowhere legal or safe to ride them.

Two boys who live along our road suddenly turned up riding one. After a week, my partner told the police and gave their address.

Haven't seen hide nor hair of it since.

Your husband is a complete moron.
They are so dangerous.
My sons friend, 20, was nearly killed on holidays on one.
He was so lucky.
They are so dangerous.
Yanbu.
No helmut?
He really doesn't care about her to be so casual with her safety.
Tosser.

there were two children who got hit by a car and died on this back in Feb.

way too young, plus they’re illegal.

That's the difference.
Private land.
The OP doesn't have any private land for her child to use a scooter (not that an 8 year old should be using one anyway).

Even if he had it's still illegal for him to use it.

That poor mother Carly, and poor Jacob.
What a waste of a life.

Me and my son were nearly taken out by someone riding a scooter round a corner. They were much older and were able to jump into the road so they didn’t run us over. If that was a 8 year old they would have likely crashed into us, injuring us all and could have been worse. Your DH is seriously stupid.

Yes but he's obviously a dipstick anyway so if OP says the daughter mustn't use it he'll probably just use it himself.

If it's got a lithium battery, don't leave it on the charger too long. They can start a fire.

They're used a lot around here but by delivery people, not little kids. Your kid is too young and doesn't come close to knowing the road rules and how to avoid an accident.

That he made a dangerous purchase he knew you didn't want behind your back, WTF.

This is begging for big hospital type trouble.

I feel sorry for op because they did talk it though, but then the DH went end did his own thing anyway.

Op yanbu

I'd take it to the tip. I couldn't just wait for her to have an accident.

This is pure Disney Dad behaviour, he wants to be the one who gives your DD anything she wants with no regard to law or safety. If the sellers won't take it back I'd take it to the police so he can't hide it away somewhere

Your DH is an utter fuckwit!

They are illegal for good reason as they are far too fast and powerful. An 8 year old is also far too young to understand this or control it unless you have acres and acres of off-road land, which you admit you haven't, like most of us.

A couple of years ago my eldest DD (then 28) was walking along Tottenham Court Road in London (on the footpath) and was hit from behind by a delivery rider on an ebike (also on the footpath when they should have been on the road). She was knocked unconscious for several minutes and taken to hospital, battered and bruised. We were lucky that it wasn't much, much worse.

I would be beyond furious with him for all the reasons stated. He would be the one taking it back and telling her why.

You’re going to have to sit the fuckwit down and be blunt. Does he want to be the fun dad with an injured or worse child, or a proper parent?

Yeah, he’s out of order.

I’d be so angry OP and I wouldn’t care about being seen as the mean mum or upsetting DD. Take it back or dump it.

Blimey OP, I'd stand my ground on this one.

Well you definitely didn't need to "aibu" this, because you very clearly aren't and I cannot even think of a word to describe your husband!!

I'd be livid if my sons dad (Ex) bought one when he was a teenager.
But for a HUSBAND to override you like that, and her only being 8? I would probably be angrier than I've ever been!

-Undermining
-Surprising you both at the same time, forcing you to either agree or be the mean one
-Lack of research into what he's buying for his young child, either thick as shit or just doesn't care that much bigger children die on these things
-Dismissing the legal side
and, not the most important but still very valid - making a financial decision like that without even letting you know!
That's no partner.

Can you return it?

They are potentially lethal. Recent very close experience where a child is suffering life-changing injuries. I think back to their inception and thinking how cool it would be for DS and thank the Angel that smacked me round the head with a sack of sense.

Be an absolute fucking tragedy if a screwdriver fell into its charging port in the night OP. Damn those tools.

WTF....she's 8!!!