Was I being unreasonable to ask my neighbours to take their loud conversation inside?

[Rainbows41]

Several times a week neighbours have regular visitors very late at night, who do not go into their house but stand outside the house, directly outside my bedroom window. They have a full blown conversation going on for around an hour each time. They don't use hushed tones, but loud day time tones.
Tonight I have had enough and opened my bedroom window and asked them if they wouldn't mind having their conversation inside their house, as I can't go to sleep.
The visitor outside the house apologised, then spoke hushedly to the neighbour who couldn't be seen as he was standing in the doorway. The visitor then proceeded to look up and do the "wanker" motion with his fist.
I don't even know what to think now except our relationship is going to be somewhat strained due to this awkward exchange.
This has happened for weeks and weeks where I have wanted to say something but have bit my tongue every time. Until tonight.
I was polite. I can assure you. But I guess it makes no difference, being asked to keep it down isn't nice for anyone. Yet as I type, he is still outside talking! And I guarantee this will go on until 11pm!
I'm so mad. Why don't they go inside???

My neighbours do this but from 6.30am.

It's annoying. I've not said anything. Just close the window loudly.

Because, sadly, people these days are utterly selfish. If you can ever afford to move to an affluent area, do so.

Yes, I've closed the window loudly once or twice...not as easy to do when it's a warm night though.

I cannot abide selfish people.

It’s infuriating

Earplugs is the only thing

Maybe they don’t go in because they’re smokers? Or because it’s too warm? Either way, it would have been better to raise it in a calm way during the day. It’s awkward for everyone now and that’s on you.

Well now you have confirmation they are awful people you can return the favour at five am 😎

They are being rude. Well done for addressing it.
I don’t get why they aren’t inside … are they smoking?
You did the right thing by asking them to go inside. Maybe ask why they haven’t ? Play back their conversation on your phone…” look - you are this loud”

Nah, it’s on them. Wankers.

Join in the conversation, unhelpfully.

It is not, asking someone to take their conversation inside when they are talking too loudly is fine

… another option is to chuck your glass of water on them next time OP. With fair warning, of course.

Open the window and say something again. Don't make it easy to ignore you.

Why suffer in silence? You don't have a good relationship with the neighbour; they keep you up at night talking loudly beneath your window. You dislike them, and that's perfectly understandable.

I will say that if you are complaining before 10pm, it does seem a bit unreasonable. They are, after all, just talking in their garden.

Not sure if you have double glazing - it's amazing at muffling this sort of sound. Also noise-cancelling headphones + white noise.

Good luck!

🤣

Haha I might just do that 😂

Thank you, that's very useful

Join in the conversation very loudly from the sideline! Give your opinion, loudly!!

I'd be hanging out the window, proper getting involved, with "omg" and "oh wow" and "really?"! My most favourite is "and then what happened?" Whilst grinning like the Cheshire Cat!!

The other day we had this with somebody’s noisy party guests leaving. I was summoning up the courage to say something when my other neighbour stuck her head out and bellowed at them, it was so funny, I’m cracking up now because it was so unexpected. But if I’d seen someone making a rude gesture about me I’d have definitely had to say “saw that, hope it wasn’t aimed at me”. If it’s happening regularly, think you do need to say something again @Rainbows41

My fantasy: 6 am, all neighbours of the dick neighbour open windows, hm hm123:
MORNING HAS BROKEN
LIKE THE FIRST MORNING
BLACKBIRD HAS SPOKEN
LIKE THE FIRST BIRD…

No reason for them to be rude in response to a polite request, but they did lower their voices, and the gesture wasn't from your neighbour so doesn't necessarily mean it'll need to be awkward if you act as you normally would when you see them next.

I did think when I read "very late at night" it was going to have been in the early hours of this morning though, not 10.30.

Well no because then that would have been the very early hours of the morning and not late night, wouldn't it?