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Silly to get guilt over this?

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Lilaaacslavender · 03/08/2025 06:16

Long story short - we had a day out planned to a national trust site today. We're membersl went on a last minute night out last night (fine btw not bashing him aha!) But got in later than expected and from what I csn tell when he got in he will probably be slightly hungover today lol

We planned to go early get there for opening at 10 which we usually do so we can get a good space have a picnic packed lunch and get as much time there as possible

But also, my 3yo and 1yo were sleeping a bit light last night and have woke early. They were both up a little bit. So they're going to be tired

Eldest probably wouldn't nap on way there but on way back would have a danger nap but a short one as its not a major drive away so hed be a bit crabby and probably crabby there as we'd have to go later

I was going to suggest either I take them tomorrow (im part time) or we go next weekend. The weather looks brighter too

I feel guilty whenever I rearrange plans? My kids are young and if I explain to 3yo why we've changed plans hes usually okay if hes had his mind set on it! And last Monday we went to a national trust site, they have 3 days in nursery and eldest does swimming a weeknight, we went to a play centre Friday and eldest has football on saturday so we do always do things!

They're both so young and I can assess when a day out may go slightly awry if theyre both over tired and I think we can do something low key, and see family (DH has a big side so visiting people usually takes half a day ahah)

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Soonenough · 03/08/2025 14:28

Don't go . Things with kids should be flexible depending on everyone's mood and capability. A simple not today should suffice . Or at that age you can get away with telling them it's closed! No point in forcing a good time , it doesn't work . Have a picnic in the garden .

Lilaaacslavender · 03/08/2025 20:49

Hi everyone sorry for the late update!

We didnt go. But had a lovely day.

We did puzzles. Baked cakes. Read our favourite books. Played in the garden when it stopped bucketing down! It was lovely :))

We then took a friends child her birthday presents and spent an hour or so there and the kids all played. So despite having no major outing planned it was a pretty good day

I do suffer with anxiety. Wanted to address that comment but yes I have done since a young age I dont know of that's why im so heavy on routine and planning every aspect of the day and feeling guilty if it changes ?

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Rafting2022 · 09/08/2025 08:58

I’m glad you had a lovely day after all and it sounds like a good decision in view of the weather.

Hopefully you can re-schedule soon!

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