14yr sibling age gap?

[Mummiof3]

Hiya all, first time here..

We have a 13ds, 11ds and a 9ds, partner and I have been talking about a potential baby #4.. I've been giving it alot of thought and I got thinking about the age gaps, does anyone have an eldest and a youngest with a 14yr age gap or similar? How do they get along? Are they close? Also does anyone have older/younger siblings with similar age gap, how do you get along?

Thank you

These are 11 years between my eldest and my youngest. They get along fine and they are pretty close. He was a bit of a mother hen when she was a baby, and I had to keep telling him that may be his first baby, but she was not my first baby.

There was 17, 15 & 11 years between my dad & his brothers & sister, he was a menopause baby when my Nan was 47.

From another perspective, I've got that gap with my sibling. We get on but not remotely close. I was blessed enough to choose to have my 3 boys within 5 years because of this.

And? OP is asking how they got along.

Not my children but one of my friends has a little sister who is 12 years younger than her and they are extremely close and have been their whole lives.

I am one of 6. My eldest sister (14 year age gap) is my best friend, and the person I would trust with my life.

I don't think age difference has much to do with closeness. I have a dsis who is 2 years older and we weren't close as children.

Im the baby of us. My brothers are 10 and 12 years older. 10 year older was my best friend till he died, 12 year older always tried to be like a father but got laughed at and always close. Now I tell him my secrets instead of 10yo and the fatherness in him hates it. But its fantastic having older brothers imo

There is nearly 18 years between my dh and his youngest sibling. The family kind of happened in two groups.

He is close enough to his brother who is 18 years younger - as in they talk, he knows what is going on with him, he loves him, he supports him. Ditto with the one who is 15 years younger - probably closer in some ways as they live closer to us. It isn't an issue.

I would worry more about how you will manage the needs/activities of a baby/toddler/preschooler with the activities of three teenage/nearly teenage children. In my experience from dh's family - what happens is the younger one doesn't do the stuff the siblings did at similar ages but is brought along to holidays/events/etc designed for older kids. I found this even with my youngest (6 year gap). Not sure any of that matters much in the scheme of things.

My nephew is 14 years older than his brother and 17 years older than his sister and they barely have a relationship. They all get on fine but he's at an age where he's living his own life. His youngest sister still hasn't started school yet. They have nothing in common.

I have 5 children. I already had 4 boys 19, 18, 16 and nearly 13 when dd was born. The older 3 were great with her when she was younger, even after the oldest 2 left home by the time she was 5. The youngest was less interested at first, but he was the one who helped her learn to ride a bike. She's 20 now and they all get on well.
I had a sister who was 11 years younger and we were very close. We spent a lot of time together until she died when she was nearly 7. My younger brothers were less close, but that was possibly because they always went about as a pair.

My kids are 22,21, 8 and 1. Had 2 planned and 2 surprises! (Now had tubes tied as not taking chances on more lol - love them all but think I’ve definitely done my bit now haha) - they all get on great. My youngest two are really lucky to have such caring older siblings

My mum had the same age gaps with her three siblings. She’s no 2 and has sadly lost her two brothers, nos 1 and 3. Her younger sister is no 4 and she gets on fabulously with her still at the respective ages of 85 and 71. I’m just 8 years younger than my aunt, and she is like a big sister to me. All my mum’s siblings got on well together, as do me and my brother with all 8 of our cousins.

my elder dd were 15 and 13 when their brother was born. It was tough being pregnant/post partum with two teens a lot of hormones flying around!

The baby stage wasn’t too bad, teens were old enough to be hands on and loved helping. They became quite independent too, we were less inclined to play taxi when we had a baby waking every two hours so they did a lot of public transport which actually helped them feel confident travelling independently.

The toddler stage was rough ds (later diagnosed with asd) had a lot of meltdowns which left everyone feeling frazzled. I saw a lot of similarities in toddler and teen overwhelm.

Overall I’d say ds has kept us close as a family, dds love their brother and have continued to join us on family days out/holidays which probably wouldn’t have happened to the same extent without ds. Because ds needed a lot of attention they became more independent than perhaps they would have been which is good and bad I guess, we phased into adult to adult relationship quite smoothly and as a result become close friends as well as parent/child.

But having a child in my late thirties took a toll on my body, my physical and mental health. It was a hard pregnancy (feeling ill/migraines/exhaustion) and we struggled a lot with ds due to his allergies, asd, lack of sleep. Mine and dhs health have both taken impact and it has aged us considerably.

There's 16 years between me and my older sister, and we're close. There's also 10 years between me and my younger sister and we aren't close at all.

My brother and I are 12 years apart.
I left home for college at 16.
I grew up while my dad was a merchant marine gone 9+ months a year, mom working as a hair dresser living in a small apartment travelling between two countries on a regular basis with lots of cousins/aunts and uncles to visit.
By the time I was 20 (fully moved out) my father was now working locally, mom had retrained to work in an office role, and they had saved enough to buy a small home and even the extended family had grown up and moved about.
We have extremely little in common other than genetics. We get along in a polite forced kind of way. Parenting styles were the same however so some very similar experiences.

10 years between me and my older sister. When I was younger we had a funny relationship, still very close but I think I got on her nerves quite a lot. Stealing her makeup and clothes to experiment as a child! As we’ve gotten older we’re become even closer, she’s like my best friend now and I’d be completely lost without her. I think it was a big bonus that she was a good few years older than me, she had the experience to advise me during difficult times in my life growing up.

My husband and his sister are thirteen years apart. When she was little, she got on his nerves a lot - although to be fair, she was a hyperactive kid who got on everyone’s nerves a lot. (I say that in the most affectionate way possible. I’ve known her since she was four.) And she’d get frustrated because she was so far away from being able to do what “the big kids” were doing.

Once she got to be around nine or ten, though, they started getting along really well, and now they’re close. He’s a software engineer and she’s a graphic artist, and they’re developing a computer game together in their spare time.