Two family WhatsApps

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We have a WhatsApp group for our whole extended family (my sister and me, my dh and her dwife and both our dss). Family members post occasionally with photographs of the dc on holiday, competing in sports or at prize giving and whatnot.

I prefer to use another one we have just for my dh, ds, dM and dF which we use much more frequently and share private jokes, gossip and chat. It's a lovely way for the five of us to keep in touch.

My dnephew was surprised to see this more close knit group in addition to the main group and said he felt left out. Am I unreasonable to think this is normal? He's 13 and a bit over sensitive as he's close to his grandparents.

I would say it's normal

I have one for extended family and one for immediate family

We have an immediate family one too. This one has the grandparents in it. I suppose it's a half way.

Reminds me of a friendship group WhatsApp group . It was really active, we’ve all known each other since university so lots of in-jokes etc. Then someone added their teenager (who we all know). Next all the teens were added. Changed the dynamic, and we all started filtering what we said. The group is now basically tumbleweed and there are smaller offshoot groups that we all use to chat. Ironically, I don’t think the person who first added her teenager is in any of them, which is a shame, but your teenager doesn’t have to be involved in everything.

Teenagers are in both the larger all family group and also the one just with our family of three plus grandparents.

Surely he can form a group with his grandparents if he wants contact with them.
You are quite entitled to have one for just your family and your parents.