DH causing arguments when I’m driving?

[Pickybitsfortea]

We went food shopping and he started going on when we were leaving the shop I just ignored him as I knew where it was going. He kept going once we were in the car and kept going and going winding me up calling me Jean slater! I could just feel myself burning up inside. I didn’t want to say anything back I eventually just burst and gave him he wanted. It just blew up so badly I pulled over the car and told him to get out as I can’t drive with him just calling me nasty names. We had the kids in the back I didn’t want it to happen in front of them. He refused to get out the car so I said fine I will drop you at yours brothers house as I didn’t want him to come back to the house and continue arguing in front of the kids. He refused to get out the car. Now he’s in my house and I’ve left. He does it all the time causing an argument when I’m driving it makes me so panicky and anxious and affects my driving!

i’m just do dissapointed in myself for allowing him to get to me and now he’s calling me the crazy one 😭

Do you really want to continue a relationship with someone who treats you like this? How unpleasant for your children to witness his behaviour.

You both need to learn how to communicate better.

So you havent said what you are arguing about..?

That’s not really the point, is it?

Its not ok for a passenger to go on and on at someone when they’re driving, especially not with their kids in the car.

He needs to learn to STFU and not wind the OP up when she’s driving.
Except clearly he won’t learn, it’s deliberate.

Lean into the crazy and when you're in the car no kids, lock the doors, go on the motorway and tell him you're going to crash and kill you both with a manic smile on your face. He might learn then

..alternatively, turn the music up or refuse to get in the car with him ever again. Why do you have to leave the house? Are you making plans to split up? You should. Does he drive?

My ex did this and I see that it was part of his DV towards me. He used to belittle my driving and try to make me anxious enough to crash. Finally, I passed an advanced driving test and he stopped. Three of my late aunts were bullied into not driving by their husbands - it’s controlling behaviour and a massive red flag imo.