Abortion - no hate please

[BySparklyHedgehog]

I’m currently 7 weeks pregnant after failed protection, I don’t want anymore children due to how ill I was in my previous pregnancy and one of my children got stuck during labour and I’m terrified of that happening again and I’m already so ill I can barely look after the children I have,
I have told my mum the situation, she’s just been to my house to visit and I’m lay on the sofa feeling sick she said are you oaky I said no I feel sick she said what’s wrong with your face basically saying I had a moody face and I’m like ???? I never in my life thought I’d have an abortion and I’ll probably regret it for the rest of my life, but iv said to her like what do you want my face to be like when I’m like this and she said it’s your own fault! Is it just me or is that a bit insensitive??

What an awful thing for your mum to say. It's more than insensitive.

I hope you have more supportive friends. I'm very sorry for your situation.

I don’t have any support at all
I have no friends where I live and I’m struggling to deal with this on my own whilst being a mum to my children

Your mum sounds incredibly insensitive.
You concentrate on yourself right now. Hopefully you have seen a Dr to talk over what you need, and what help is available. It's your life, no one else's.
Good luck' x

You don’t want anymore children and are suffering with extreme sickness, don’t give yourself a hard time over this decision.

I agree with @AprilShowers25. Think of your existing children and your health. That’s the priority - rather than a simple ball of cells in your body. You’re taking control and making a good decision for your existing situation. I’m sorry your mum isn’t supportive. Doesn’t sound like she would be if you went ahead with the pregnancy in any case.

I have spoken to someone thankyou x

She probably never experienced this. People are quick to judge abortion when they’ve never been in that situation but only you and your body know. Trust your instincts and do what’s best for you. Forget about what she said even though it’s horrible.

@BySparklyHedgehog I don't believe in abortion but I love my daughter more than my personal views about something that is legal.

If you were my dd, you'd be in my arms and I'd be swallowing my principles and making the Marie Stopes call with you, accompanying you and helping you look after your children.

I very very recently had a termination due to HG. It was an agonising decision to make but I had to prioritise my dc. It was a very much wanted pregnancy too but there were other complications which made the HG very severe. You can get support from a charity called pregnancy sickness support and they offer counselling too. I’m sorry you are going through this

I have spoken to someone thankyou x

Thankyou x

Thankyou so much

I just feel so alone in all of this x

you'll only "regret it for the rest of your life" - if you allow yourself to be consumed by it, guilt is a pointless emotion, it servesno purpose exceptto make you feel shit, you make the decision that is best for you, and you make it for you. Youcant change the past, so if in future you start to feel guilt - stop, tell yourself i did it, I can't change it, I'm living my life.

Thankyou so much I’ll have a look at the charity ,
it hurts because if it wasn’t for the hg and how my other labour was I would have another baby but for my health and my children I can’t do it x

I really feel for you OP.
Please take care of yourself and as hard as it is, Detach from your mum's response.
Is she normally supportive?
I have phoned samaritans previously for support and found that very helpful

100% I never imagined this was something I would do but I just feel like it’s my best option.

Thankyou I really appreciate that x

thankyou so much 🩷 your daughter is very lucky to have you. Xx

Thankyou so much and I will have a look thankyou

I'm sorry you're going through this.

You say you're alone, is your partner not supporting you?

If you want to have an abortion, there's no shame or guilt required.

Where is your partner ?

I mean he’s here but he works long hours he’s not a very emotional person and he’s just like it is what it is

He’s around but he’s not been the best support he works full time and long hours and with the kids being around there’s just not time to talk about it fully

You need to put your other children first and they need you to be around for them, you're doing the best by everyone OP and that's what you need to remember. There's nothing to feel guilty about when you're doing the best you can for everyone.

This sounds like the right decision for you OP - I had one myself when very young, I've never regretted it.

Take care of yourself, feel free to tell your husband what you need - if that be a hug or him taking the kids out for a bit.