To feel upset I saw myself in camera

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I don’t know what I’m looking for but I’m really shocked. I was checking our door camera this morning and I saw myself and I’m really upset about how fat I look. Obviously I look in the mirror but I don’t seem that bad in my dressing table mirror. I also know I’ve put weight on but I didn’t realise it was this much. Even now I’m denying in my head that it must be the camera angle etc. but I literally can see rolls of fat on myself but my brain is telling me I don’t look that different, I feel really upset. My mental health is not great tbh right now and this is really upsetting for me. How did I let myself go so badly.

I'm really sorry. Cameras can be horrifically cruel and I think they CAN/do lie if they catch us from a very unflattering angle or in mid-flight, or while wearing something that doesn't do us any favours.

There's a good chance a door camera is wide angle or fish bowl lens. It will be doing you no favours at all.

You no doubt look absolutely fine 🙂

I hear you op i really do.
My sisters daughter took a pitcher of me last night without me knowing and OMG.
It was from the side so a side view.
I dont have a neck just a chin.
i have ripples on my arm due to being fat.
Honestly im disgusting.
However i cried with laughter i look a state.
But i am going to do something about it.
I have ordered a multi workout jym and much more i blow £600 this morning.
And it all starts next week with the new me.

I feel your pain OP, I've been there, it's horrid. For some reason I looked ok in my bedroom mirror, but things like getting out my car in the office car park and seeing myself in the glass door, just horrific. Videos and photos just terrible, confirmation of how I had let myself go. However, it was what I needed and when I was in the right headspace I focused and sorted it out and am now back to a healthy weight.

I've just lost 5 stone and now I look slim in clothes but like a deflated balloon underneath and now my face just looks old rather than fat. I'm going to have to spend hours in the gym and have a facelift. I looked better fat tbh but I can't put it back on for health reasons.

Yes, it was a photo that did it for me too. God, that was a horrible day.

I lost a good few stone by going to the gym every day - but for short periods of time so it doesn’t seem so overwhelming.

One thing I would add (and it’s purely anecdotal) is that I’ve noticed people who put on fat easily tend to put on muscle easily too..I certainly do. So maybe @cofffeeee has got the right idea!

Yup, I’ve been slowly gaining weight in peri menopause and look in my full length mirror in the morning thinking it’s not so bad. It really is!

I took a few full length pics of myself in different outfits for a night out before deciding what to wear as I clearly can’t trust the mirror & it was like looking at someone else’s body. It did make me knuckle down starting exercise on a regular basis again and to stop buying junk. It’s going to take a long time to shed these lbs but the WLI’s aren’t for me.

The camera can lie. We get used to holding ourselves in a flattering way for posed shots or in the mirror; then if a candid shot catches us at the wrong moment, the opposite can happen and a shot is spectacularly unflattering. The 'truth' will lie somewhere between what you thought you looked like and what your door camera showed- in other words, it is nowhere near as bad as you think!

Focus on getting your mental health in a better place as that's the most important thing for now.

That’s my excuse for still being fat.

Others around me are on WLI and are losing loads of weight, but I notice how old they suddenly appear. I’m nearly 60 and think I’d rather be chubby. I walk loads so am not worried too much about my heart etc.

I do know that all this extra skin would just sag though and I’m not going to be having surgery to remove it.

My only advice: don’t look at photos. 🤣

I saw myself at a self service checkout and I looked awful. I feel your pain. ( I’m not photogenic at the best of times as it is !)

.. i mean the mirror above where you scan.

People are not helping when they say ‘oh it will be the camera’

the OP seems to have accepted this as a bit of a wake up call. Cameras don’t create fat rolls that don’t exist. Yes they can show very unflattering shots but they can also brutally tell us that we have been deluding ourselves.

body dysmorphia works in both ways. When I’ve been bigger I really thought I looked fine. I would look at size small clothes and think ‘what adult could fit those’

when I’m slim I never see myself as slim and I look at size large clothes and realise how big they are.

we delude ourselves more than the cameras does

I think you need to keep perspective. All that's happened here is that you've noticed that your body has more fat on it than you'd prefer. You haven't committed a crime or done something disgusting. And if you want to reduce some of the fat on your body, there's ways to do it.

I had a similar wake up call and it encouraged me to get into exercise and pay a bit more attention to what I was eating, which was a good thing

Those doorbell cameras have a fish bowl type lens which widens the perspective. I thought the same about myself when I first got one that I looked really fat but it also made my husband look fat and he is as skinny as a rake.