To be irritated at being asked to give my pronouns?

[purpledaze24]

I work in a very “progressive” organisation who are constantly trying to be sooo pc about everything 🙄
Almost daily I have meetings with colleagues, clients, and people from other organisations. At the beginning of EVERY meeting my manager asks everyone to go round and give their pronouns. It’s SO annoying! Every single person is always the pronoun they look like, my work also has nothing to do with supporting trans people or anything related, many of the people I’ve known for years, yet she still makes us do this every single meeting!! AIBU to be unbelievably irritated (and actually kind of offended) by this?

On a slightly different topic, I was at a friend’s barbecue recently and there was a young woman there who asked what my pronouns were. I answered she/her through gritted teeth and she said back “I’m he/him” (!) She was (what I assumed) was a slightly boyish lesbian. She didn’t appear to be making any attempt to look like a man. She even had long hair. She was just wearing “boyish” clothes (but stuff I’d wear sometimes). I thought how annoying it must be to go through life constantly having to “correct” people. Am I being overly judgmental by being annoyed by this? Like it feels like she’s just making a total mockery of gender and actually if I was a genuine trans man who desperately wanted to be recognised as he/him I’d feel like she was taking the absolute piss!

Bloody hell I couldn’t even be arsed to join in with such nonsense. I think if put on the spot I’d say “call me what you like”

The US Dems decided to go all out on a visual lie. Not just lie but force that lie into schools and school sports and other areas of private life.

Trump and Co would have been stupid not to see the own goal that created and why would they not go TWAM carries the mid to center left, the center, the whole of the right.
Their adopting it works well for "right-wing" policy which undermine womens rights because the "left-wing" women (mainly) who should be focused on womens rights policy are too busy trying to sell it as Mens or Peoples rights.

When I was growing up I used to find it annoying that some forms required me to state my religion, and that "atheist" or "none" was under the heading "religious belief". I find the same with pronouns. I don't want to engage. I always read these threads though because I don't know what I would do if asked, and want to have a think about what others do. I've only been asked once "what are your pronouns", it was for data collection for research. I said I didn't have any. That's easy, but it was one to one. We're encouraged to put them in our email signatures, some do but not most. I haven't yet been in a meeting where I've been invited to, but I have introduced myself following from someone who stated pronouns by just stating my name and profession.

They/them is also a very specific insult in the English language.

It is a load of nonsense.
Who would have believed in the past that this would ever be a thing.

It's probably so that some sort of tick box can be filled in on a quality mark application.

We had a new manager for our team. It was the first thing she asked after introducing herself, ‘hello I am Clara my pronouns are she/her’. She was awfully bouncy, immature, and annoying.
Most of us are post meno grumpy types who have little regard for this. We come to work to work and do a good job.
I said, at my turn, hello, I am Noodle, post menopausal woman whose pronouns are try/me.
Not as good as my colleague who said very similar but that her pronouns are eff/off.

My notice is in. I can’t be doing with it all. Especially a 24 year old manager who doesn’t know what we do.

When I was growing up I used to find it annoying that some forms required me to state my religion,

Required ?

I just say no thank you when asked.

I've never been asked in a meeting. I think our very active LGBTlettersoup group would like to but they just hold themselves back - I suspect they (a) know the law and (b) know that people would get aggravated.

However, we were told we kind of had to put them in our website bios so I clicked prefer not to say (which I actually objected to because I thought it made it sound like I had something to hide rather than "this is bollocks").

Someone has asked me about it but I said I was an obvious woman with a female name so it was blindingly obvious. This particular (male) colleague has a unisex name, so I said it made more sense for him to do it and he accepted that. Although we have our photos on the website so it's still blindingly obvious...

Why not just reply with waste/time/crack on... nothing they can do if they so keen for you to give them.

It's all a load of rubbish

I got asked once, at an all ‘female’ training event. I just responded with ‘call me Lucy’.

‘That’s not a practice I follow’.

I’ve done the flat stare too. Or nowadays, taking inspiration from the excellent Naomi Cunningham: ‘No’.

A class example of that old MN maxim ‘No is a complete sentence’.

I don't have pronouns. Just say the same

The one and only time I ever agreed with Ted Cruz was when he said his pronouns were: Kiss/My/Ass 😂

The pronoun people are so annoying.

I’ve been watching a tv show called Strike. A female character- perfectly ordinary young woman seeking to make herself different/interesting/edgy - demands NB they/them pronouns & the rest of the characters drop “they” clunkers throughout.

it’s embarrassing for them all. I won’t watch 2nd series.

gender bollocks destroys all it touches.

Alternatively:

"Oh, I don't have any. Where can I buy them ?"

the TL;DR is any response - the more puerile the better - that could provoke the response

"But you're not taking this seriously"

Is the best. Get them to say it first.

In that vein ...

"Let me get back to you on that"

"On a first date ?"

"No thank you, I'm trying to give them up"

"That's terribly kind, but I've just eaten"

"I stopped doing that in 2003"

"I take my pronouns from an ancient Tibetan tradition. They can't be written and have no sound".

"Why don't you fuck off ?"

I say to people that I’ve made it this far in life with no one ever getting it wrong by looking at me and my name so just give it your best guess!

Same here re making it this far