Move or not

[notsadnotlonely]

Firstly a little background
I’m late 60s, widowed 2 years ago (the love of my life). Atm I’m not very physically active due to health issues, needing help with the garden, house maintenance and some other day to day activities. I drive, do everything on line and technologically savvy. I am intelligent and love all crosswords. (Reads like a lonely hearts advert but it’s not!)
I live alone but not lonely.
The realisation came to me that in the two years I’ve been widowed I’ve only been invited to one daughter’s house for Xmas dinner twice and Mother’s Day twice. My other daughter invited me when I was really poorly and I just needed to sleep. We do meet up outside occasionally for lunch/tea They pop in to me every 3 weeks or so but do phone every other day. I know they love me. I think the world of my sons in law. I think it’s important they live their lives without me being a “it’s Sunday we have to go to Mothers” parent
I have found a little property that would suit me with smaller garden but it’s about 50 miles from each of them whereas at present they are just 15/20 miles away and they think it’s too far from them. I should add that they all work full time.

My question is
Am I being unreasonable to move further away.

Not at all, I'd move if it works for you.

You're really sensible to be thinking of downsizing to somewhere that will be easier for you to manage. You might not always want to drive and the distance will almost certainly mean they drop in less. If all that's ok with you then do what makes you happy.

In principle - it’s your life

You will see less of them and you don’t have a clear way to increase your social circle which is worrying

also give great thought to the new area - doctors , public transport etc

I think downsizing sounds sensible. Is the new place close to amenities like transport links, shops, GP (for future proofing if you eventually can’t drive)?
What about friends etc, do you have support where you currently are? Does the new place offer community (if it’s something you want…).
If there’s nothing keeping you in your current area, then a move could be a lovely fresh start.
Doesn’t sound like you see your daughters very much in person, you’d still get your regular phone calls. Are there grandkids that you’d see less of?

I am in sort of the same situation as your daughter's I guess. My mum is moving to downsize but is moving a five mins walk from me. I am so pleased. She sounds like you in that she won't be nipping round all the time but from my perspective I am able to be there for her easily and she knows that too which makes everything feel safer and more future proofed. I wouldn't move that far away if I were you.