To wear maternity jeans even though my youngest child is 12?

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I've lost so much weight over the past two years but only one dress size, I carry all my weight in my belly and I must be at least a size maybe two smaller everywhere else now. My jeans are hanging off my legs and arse and I hate. Can I wear maternity jeans or is it one step away from permanently wearing sweatpants?

Have you been checked for ovarian cancer?

No, not had my weekly "ovarian cancer check".

Come on, have we lost the ability to interact with people because of the Internet? That's not how you ask if someone is dying of cancer. Would you say that, in that way if you heard me on the school run?

I am properly apple shaped and always have been. It's slightly worse since middle age though.

You can wear whatever you want to. I hate tight waistbands.

If you find jeans that fit, make you feel good and happen to be maternity why not.

However if its the ones with the big wait and you won't be able to tuck anything in which can be the most flattering rather than baggy things.

You should ask in style and beauty as they might have good alternate brands that give you the elastic but not so obvious

Come on, someone is looking out for your health and you don't even take it in good faith and instead mock how they tried to bring something to your attention?

I was wondering why you posted in AIBU instead of Style and Beauty but I can see why now: because you're spoiling for a fight.

YABU.

Well i feel like there are other options rather than maternity jeans which might be worth looking at. What style of jeans have you tried ? Stretch or no stretch? I feel like playing around with different rises and cuts might identify a style which meets your needs. My friend has those wide leg Halara jeans that are stretchy and really raves about them.

I’ve got a fibroid that makes my tummy look five months gone and have thought the same thing about maternity jeans. My mother is the same. I don’t see why not. Keep a T-shirt or blouse out rather than tucked in and it’ll be out little secret!

Oh and yeah you might want to get checked out to see if you’ve got one too. Harmless but annoying things. Im just suggesting.

Having a very large tummy compared to the rest of your body, to the point that you’re wearing maternity jeans, isn’t normal body fat distribution. A persistently swollen tummy area is an ovarian cancer symptom. It’s a cancer that is often “silent” until too late.

I imagine you wouldn’t be asking strangers what we think about you wearing maternity jeans when you’re not pregnant or postpartum on the school run…

Do you think it might be diastasis recti? My body carries weight in this way too. I wear the toni new look jeans, I find them the best for it, or the m&s carrot ones.

I have the same issue, definitely don't have ovarian cancer as I've had a scan recently for other issues. I hadn't actually considered maternity jeans but my belly is bigger than everywhere else and I just cannot find any jeans that don't painfully dig in when I sit down, even supposedly "stretchy" ones.

Just wear what you want. I can't believe someone would even ask this tbf

She didn't mock. She called out the particularly blunt way the first response landed. I am not given to sensitivity, but had a visceral response to the way that was posted.
Yes, a lot of us who have been here are a while will remember the poster who complained of bloating and turned out to have ovarian cancer. That is no excuse for just plopping the question without any context or background for the OP.

It might have been nicer to put some sugar on it but the presentation of the message isn't more important than the message itself.

And if OP was so concerned with sugar coating, she herself could have said something like "Thank you so much for your concern. No I hadn't thought about it but I certainly will now. Can I just flag that whilst i appreciate you taking time to comment, I felt a bit jarred reading it and it upset me. I'm letting you know because I'm sure the last thing you wanted was to upset anyone so just next time you have such a concern, it might be appreciated by the reader to have a bit more of a lead in and signpost some support."

My point is that sugar coating is nice, but it can be longwinded and less direct. There was no way for OP to misunderstand, she just chose to take an opportunity to say "be nicer" not "thank you for your concern". For all we know, Fiona might only have had 20 seconds in before an appointment and used that time as best she could because she thought saying something potentially helpful was more important than not saying it at all.