To be unable to embrace the change of plans.

[Littlebittiredoflife]

I've been at work for three days this week and taken today off to take the kids to the farm. However youngest DD woke up throwing up last night several times so we've stayed home. However I can't feel settled, keep thinking well they seem better now let's just go but I'm not anywhere near ready to leave the house regardless of if they are better. I also know it would be irresponsible if me to ignore the 48 hr rule. The older children don't mind at all and are happy with a mix of playing Lego and on the tablet. I also love days at home but not when plans change last minute and I am supposed to be somewhere else. So I'm feeling crap that we're missing out on what was planned due to illness and also crap that I can't just relax and enjoy the day at home because I feel we are meant to be elsewhere. I could get my Mum to look after the littlest and go with the older ones but I can't guarantee they won't be sick again. And I can't decide what is best to do so I'm just left feeling uneasy and not able to live in the present. I have massive fomo but ironically my fomo is stopping the joy of being at home and having a chill day.

Your child is ill and needs to be at home, not palmed off on grandma. You already know you would be selfish and irresponsible to take a vomiting child out and about. The farm will be there another day, sometimes it sucks when plans have to change due to illness but its part of being a parent, you have to learn to roll with it.

Do you usually struggle with plans changing?

Child doesn't seem at all ill today. No temperature, eating again (albeit just toast so far), no sick since midnight. If they were still visibly ill I feel that'd be easier to accept, but obviously that wouldn't be preferable.

Yes at work if a meeting is cancelled it takes a while to get into a different unplanned piece of work. I just feel more comfortable if things go ahead as planned. Not sure of any other examples can you clarify?

Don't be one of those irresponsible selfish people who take their children out - whether they appear ill or not they were vomiting a little over 12hrs ago. There's a reason places ask you to stay away for 48hrs after the last time.

They threw up several times in the night. So they are ill, even if they’re now on the mend.

I don’t like plans changing either though.

I don't think I need people telling me not to take them. I'm not going to, I was just trying to explain why I'm thinking we could be out. What I wondered more if how can I make the most of the plans changing and enjoy myself after a hard few days of work.

I’m like this; I get into a mindset that is then hard to change. I’d just stay at home though

Yes lots of us struggle with plans changing especially when it's out of our control and we've been looking forward to it. Sometimes we just need to accept it takes some time to decompress and adjust to the new situation ut it's fine to feel a bit ru bish the day isn't going as hoped

Thank you for your kind words. I don't even feel rubbish. Part of me is massively glad to be able to stay home and have a rest. But then I have this massive sense of unease that is just ruining the day. Both about the plans and whether anyone else will get sick but mostly about the plans. I can't get into any of books and I can't decided what to eat or whether to let the kids watch TV.

Have made a plan for tomorrow being at home so hoping I don't feel so lost.