How long will this feeling last?

[Mytimenow25]

Some of you may have seen my post on Monday but for those that didn't, briefly, I found out partner of 16 years had been cheating on me. He has left the home to be with her while I remain at home with the kids.

Well he came over last night without the kids there and we discussed the house and arrangements for him seeing the children. He offered no apology nor did he show any remorse and said he didn't even feel like he owed me an explanation after 16 years together. I didnt recognise the hard faced, emotionless man sitting in front of me (he has always been the more emotional one of the 2 of us). Eventually he got up and said are we done here and walked out.

I'm trying my best to be as normal as possible around the children but inside I physically sick constantly. I can't eat or barely drink as it feels like it gets stuck in my throat. My heart literally feels like it is breaking all the time and my stomach is in constant knots. In my head I have so many thoughts going round and round many of which I know I will never get answers to. I hate that I feel like this. I'm so angry and there is definitely no going back from this but at the same time if someone told me I could wake up in the morning and things would be back to normal I know I would jump at the chance.

My question is when does this constant sick feeling in the pit of your stomach stop? If ever?

That is a very hard situation. The feeling will stop eventually, but it will be there for a while. Your whole world has altered suddenly and outwith your control, and it takes time for your brain to accept, which makes things seem very strange and uncomfortable.

Look after yourself as you would if you were poorly. Try to quell overthinking what might have been, whether any of this is your fault etc. Some sort of mantra might help.

Kalms are good for the butterfly feelings.

Take any support from family and friends that you can.

You will get through this, it is hard but you can and will bear it.

It does stop eventually. I think anger is a good sign, it means you are processing what has happened. My advice is to focus on your plan, what you want, when you want it, etc. You can then stop waiting for him to call the shots. Take care of yourself.