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Have i misinterpreted him?

30 replies

jacki9 · 30/07/2025 05:34

How would you take this comment? I’m on holiday with my ex and our DC. We have been separated almost 4 months. Here and there during the holiday he’s tried to kiss or hold me and i’ve been very upfront and told him no as nice as i can and he’s seemed ok with it, we even have separate rooms so he knows (well i hoped) that it’s not a ‘fix us’ holiday. But then yesterday, he got so drunk which i found an issue in its self since we are abroad and we have 3 DC here with us. Here’s the part where i need opinions please. Our rooms are connecting and i was lying on the bed on my front when he came into mu room and put his hands between my legs. This startled me and i jumped up and said ‘please don’t do that, we are not together and i don’t like it, that’s is crossing a line’. He stormed back to his room calling me a joke, then after a few moments called me over to him on his balcony, i approached him but he was so drunk he was wobbly and it made me nervous for him so i said to him ‘be careful on here (balcony) you’re a bit wobbly and your making me nervous you’ll fall. His response, you’re the one who has to be careful not me. All the while i’m the sober one. I took this as a threat of ‘he’ll push me off the balcony’ especially the tone in which it was said. Do you think i misinterpreted his words?

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toomuchfaff · 30/07/2025 12:56

Pinkgiraffe34567 · 30/07/2025 06:08

Do you think it could have been his (very bad) attempt at ‘kinky’ talk while drunk?

really???

Even if it was, that doesn't make it ok.

No.

Report the ex, have nothing more to do with him. Assault and threatening language. Drunk or not, don't demean the action because of anything.

Blanketwrap · 30/07/2025 12:59

If nothing else, he's sexually assaulted you.

I think you should report that. I don't expect anything will happen, but it's recorded so you can show history if needed (hopefully not) and he sees you're serious.

Terrribletwos · 30/07/2025 13:05

He sounds like a nasty and possibly dangerous individual. The holiday was a mistake and you probably hoped he would be mature and respectful but it turned into the opposite. Distance yourself and report.

Skybluepinky · 30/07/2025 13:06

Why go on holiday with an x utter madness.

dogcatkitten · 30/07/2025 13:10

It was the drink talking, but none the less scary. This is the end of the holiday and just never put yourself in that position again. It's also worrying about you never being with anyone else, was he drunk then too? He sounds like a nasty when drunk, so I'm glad you are no longer with him, don't go back!

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