Friend competitive over her Dc

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It makes me uncomfortable

We met up at the weekend, my Dc just wanted to play freely, my friend kept trying to get out structured games to play. Her Dc was good at it and it was almost like a show, watching to see what I thought and saying how amazing he was.
I’m really not interested in that sort of thing at all, but made all the right noises ‘Oh isn’t he clever, amazing’
Really, I don’t like it, find it dull and quite odd. She takes the games seriously and my Dc ended up saying ‘I’m getting a bit bored of this, please can we pretend to be spider man again’

Why be like this?

Anyone else’s mum pals like this?

Yep childhood friend who became a completely competitive bore once our kids came along.

Always bragging and comparing. It was like she’d had a personality transplant. I would dread seeing her as it became all she would talk about and it was so unpleasant. I eventually found the courage to withdraw and stop seeing her. Our kids are now adults and she occasionally pops up still doing it. I’m over it. I can’t believe she’s got the energy to be so invested!

My advice is ditch now. Don’t waste the years I have! Competitive cunts like that are obsessive. They never give it up.

Is it insecurity?

Well, yes, obviously

Yep, I dropped a few. Tends to be mums with their first dc. My twins were prem so developmentally delayed. No SEN, just didn’t walk until 16mo, didn’t sit up until almost 9mo etc. They all get there at their own pace.

Should add dtds are now almost 14 and in top sets for maths and science.

Some people are just so wrapped up in their own world. They don’t mean any offence but I agree it’s dull.

so you're judging her for choosing an activity her DC liked and was good at?
What's wrong with that?
Why do you think what your DC 'wanted' to play should get preference? Some DC prefer structured stuff.
I'd be a bit embarrassed if my DC was so rude as to tell the host they were bored.

She said it quietly to me, it went on and on and was very obviously a show and it was boring

Yeah just avoid play dates with this mum - or suggest meeting at a playground or going for a bike ride. Or get hold of the dad and make sure he is the one hosting the play date - I find dads are usually chill!

A friend of mine said she bumped into a mum at her local library and the mum suggested having a kids reading competition and promptly got her dd to start reading a very advanced fiction book! Mums in particular can be totally bonkers.

Yes i have a friend like this….im not and never have been competitive too laid back probably!

she has to email school or calls/has words with teachers in playground if child isn’t picked and isn’t recognised publicly for their achievements- i cringe! She gets annoyed when other talented kids are included and moans “oh ds wont be happy!” Im like Jesus Christ let them be kids!!