Pronoun reversal at 2.5

[Babymad1234]

How common is pronoun reversal at 2.5 , specifically you and I . She has a lot of spontaneous conversations and answers to a lot of questions but she doesn’t get you and I correct no matter how I correct her . She has some set phrases like “ I don’t want “ I got “ I have etc .
the reason I ask is because this particular pronoun mix up with you and I is not that common in a normal language acquisition process

Very normal part of language development at that age.

Don't over correct her as she won't remember yet and doesn't understand the correct grammar.

There's loads they do at that age but they do grow out of it.

'Me' is very common instead of 'I' e.g. 'me got the bricks', 'me can do it'.

My son used to say 'I can do it by my own self' 😂

So important it had to be said twice🤣

DS did have targeted SALT intervention to support with his use of pronouns, but that was much later at around 4.

At 2.5 he was using minimal single words to make the point, mainly verbs and nouns. There was a lot of pointing and grunting. I flagged it with the HVs and at that point he was on the low end of normal range. It was a year later before he slipped in progress enough for intervention.
He was a deeply frustrated toddler who melted down regularly and this persisted.

At 6 when he was signed off from SALT he was talking very articulately and the SALT therapist was astonished at the rate of progress from his base level at referral.

It was an early sign of autism for my child. But I think they carried on saying “can you give it to you” meaning them at 3+ years.

Oh is this tip toes walking woman?

This is the cutest thing I have read all year 😍

Ah, it's so easy to worry about things. I'm haven't heard about it being a trait of autism but my DS is now 13 and DD is 4 and both are NT (as far as we know with DD at only 4 but showing no traits). DS is doing well at secondary school and is popular and academic, if that helps at all to know how it turned out 10 years on.

I always thought it made sense for them to do this reversal as I'd call DS "you" and call myself "me" and he was just doing the same.

That’s what I have always thought like when she is eating toast she says “ you eating toast “ and then I point at her chest and she corrects herself . Other times she says “ I got a new toy etc “

Yes i can see traits in her like toe walking and being very verbal and she is using a lot of phrases she has learned from us in her speech

Yes, it is the toe walker.

Kindly OP, you are the one who needs help, not your child.

Go to the GP and make an appointment to discuss your anxiety.

I'm a SALT. Pronouns are slippery linguistic bastards and require a lot more processing to work through in the brain (you've got to figure out who is doing the thing, who you are talking to, is there more than one person doing the thing - it's a lot to go through) - so yes, there are kids who get them muddled for longer than the "norm".

Yes some autistic people find them hard, yes some autistic people toe walked... but lots of non autistic people did as well - and being brutal here - if she ends up being diagnosed with autism - so what? She'll still be exactly the same child that she is now and autism is not all doom and gloom - I'm autistic, my child is autistic and we're perfectly happy with our lot.

Just out of interest: how’s her number / letters / shape recognition?

I really wouldn’t worry about autism though.

Just to give you some info from another perspective, my DS had language issues and we noticed from about the age of your DD. After much, much investigation and time, he was found to have a speech and language processing and expression issue and this affected him profoundly in early years. It affected him far less as he matured though and although he ended up not wanting to be an author/essay writer (!) he's now employed in a professional role that involved much training/learning/studying, via written word, i.e. not by practical demonstration only.

Your DD is so little, please don't worry too much about future outcomes and to the 'all language issues are autism related' advice - utter tosh!

"Kindly"?

The Op has started. Many many threads describing perfectly normal toddler behaviour wanting to know if its a sign of autism ,professional, s have no concerns and neither does her own mother who's apparently a paediatrician.

If she is Autistic there's nothing you can do about it. She'll be fabulous and smart.
My youngest daughter asked me if an episode of Peppa Pig could also be called a peppisode! She was 3.5 I had no thoughts about her being Autistic (just a budding linguist)
As it happens she's now 17 and going for a diagnosis just because it'll help when she's at university if people understand her quirks.
She's amazing and I hope your little one brings you all the joy mine does.

The OP is displaying concerning patterns of behaviour and needs help.

OP - i don't know your earlier posts but 2.5 isn't too young to start thinking about autism. Have you had the 2 year health check yet? Is your child attending any nursery or similar where other adults see her?

I also agree with lots of earlier posters - don't correct emerging language. It's so discouraging. Children are learning to communicate and she's doing amazing at that for that age. Don't point out what she's got wrong! She's got so much right!

And if she's autistic, you are going to need to parent the beautiful, very untimetable child you have, not the child the development books outline. So let go a bit on the achievements and 'properly' and enjoy the super cuteness.

I think this is the poster that despite being assured that her child seems normal seems to want her child to be autistic.

The 'kindly' crew never sound kind. 'Concerning'? 'Needs help'? How is your English language? Can you hear how judgemental and harsh this tone is?

Maybe OP is crippled with anxiety. Jesus, having a small child is really really hard and can be very isolated. Imperious instruction to go the GP is fucking hilarious. What is the GP going to do? I say this as someone who only by child 3 was brave enough to reveal my post natal anxiety. I got sympathetic head nods from the GP. And the same ability to sign up for CBT that I could get through the Internet. 'Needs help'? Let's hope OP doesn't need help that includes sympathy or understanding from her peers on the Internet, cause that ain't forthcoming, is it?

There was a time when I thought DS had a speech impediment because he said 'dis' 'dat' and 'uzzer' - seemed to go on for ages and then I realised it had stopped 🤣 My mother reminded me that I used to call my older bro 'Daydee' because I couldn't say 'David'. Littlies find their way and sometimes totally mix up words. DS used to love playing Kings and Queens and once popped a cardboard crown on my head and said 'Sit there Your Emergency'

Have you seen her previous threads?

People agreeing with her theories will just exacerbate her disordered thinking.

That's what you thought was happening. Meanwhile, Bono is still waiting for his biscuit.

I work with kids this age and this is really normal and common. Many kids at 4 still get she / her mixed up. Sentences like 'him takeded mine car' are normal at 3, by 4 I'd be looking to help correct it a bit more. For the you mix up I'd say try using her name and your own for a while. Mummy is sitting down, does Sarah want to sit down too. Modelling 'you' in front of another adult will help too.

There is no rush though and she is capable of communicating well which is the most important thing. From what you've told us i wouldn't see cause for concern

My child is autistic and at 2.5 he didn't talk at all. When he did start talking, he never mixed pronouns up because he never talked about himself at all. Still doesn't because he doesn't understand that we don't know what he's thinking. Anyway, I wouldn't worry OP, enjoy your toddler years 😍