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Noisy neighbour

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Happyjoe · 28/07/2025 18:38

Long time lurker, 1st time poster, hello!

Live in a terraced house. Neighbours with a 3 year old moved in just before Xmas into a council home next door. Sadly they have laid the worst laminate down and put pretendy wood panelling on our joining wall. We share flooring joists sadly.
The result?
A very 'live' room where I can hear their conversations, their child screaming and shouting and the worst bit, every single footstep sounds like a loud thump in my house and can be felt through the floor and walls.

So, these are the steps I took.

Went around and asked very nicely if they could ask their little one from running too much as it comes over as thumps and explained we could hear every footstep.

I used noise cancelling headphones to watch TV (didn't work, could still hear and feel the thumps). Used earplugs, didn't work so couldn't read books. Tried to get peace and sit in the garden, sadly greeted by screams through their permanently open child's window (even at -4oc!). Before they moved in I met the grandad over the garden fence and he said his grandchild was hideously noisy so they are aware.

Mental health starting to be affected, I just couldn't do anything. Then the skunk smoking started which the smell creeps up under the floors - I lost it and contacted the council. They stopped the smoking quite sharpish as new council tenants, they are on probation. The council agreed that there was a noise issue at 1st, the tenant agreed 8 months ago to buy a rug. Of course, that never happened and the council closed the case, saying it's normal family life noises despite having a clause in their rental agreements about not laying poor flooring that causes an issue. Oh, I bumped into a lady who I'd known in passing for a while and had many a friendly chat, who turned out to be neighbours Auntie, who saw fit to shout at me, telling me that a child will always be noisy, I should shut up and 'nobody likes me', as a hilarious passing shot. This is a grown woman and school playground stuff!

Fast forward 3 weeks ago, I've had enough. I now play music the moment I am disturbed, no matter what time it is because it's nicer than hearing them, better for my soul. My neighbours the other side of me said they are ok and understand why am doing it and don't really like my next door anyway.

I can tell they are pissed off with my music as their noise is getting louder and louder, buying their child a whistle, a bouncy ball and someone is now using heeled shoes and really stomping hard on the ground. I just turn it up. I am not going to give up, every time they get louder, so do I. I own my house, I don't see why after 13 years I should have to leave. There is a row of 6 houses on this little bit and a few folk moved away and new ones came in, until now we've always been considerate to each other.

Luckily I absolutely love music - and for 13 years I've not played it as always respected neighbours peace, so that aspect has been nice! I am wondering how long it will be before they make the connection? Or if they are the entitled sort who think they are the only people who count.

Ah, not sure why written, just wondering what your thoughts or experiences are if been in a similar situation? Cheers very much!

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Iamtired123 · 28/07/2025 21:12

I feel your pain. As well as playing music you could also play white noise

ReplaceTheLinen · 28/07/2025 23:44

If they can dish it out, they can take it back. Play your music.

Happyjoe · 02/08/2025 09:26

Thanks for taking the time out to vote (and comment!). Made me feel a bit better about the music, appreciate it loads :-)

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BMW6 · 02/08/2025 09:28

Get some bagpipe music on.......

AuntyDepressant · 02/08/2025 09:51

These things escalate so quickly. I once spent a few hours in a terraced house on a date and that was enough for me to know I'd never want to live in one because you really do hear every single thing from next door. The walls were paper thin. I have to say my sanity would be too important not to move away but of course the problem you now have is you are going to have to declare a dispute to potential buyers.

MsMiniver · 02/08/2025 09:58

I got hideous loud neighbours but unfortunately they had bought. 5 sons. Ripping the house apart and doing it up with massive extensions for 2 years. Ripped out my broadband cable when excavating their front garden to tarmac it. Dug up the back garden and raised the level so all privacy lost for my house and back garden. Ripped out a beautiful mature hedge and put concrete slabs up. Dogs barked at us every time we went outside and their cat attacking my cat. Took my parking space. Blasted awful music from massive speakers in the garden on sunny days.

In the end I sold the house and moved. I was pregnant and couldn’t stand putting up with it by that point. I was actually surprised they didn’t try to buy my house and knock through to create an even more monstrous hell palace. They certainly needed the space.

I feel really sorry for you. It’s awful. In your case I would be hoping they will move on, as tenants.

PlutarchHeavensbee · 02/08/2025 09:59

Totally feel your pain. We have renters next to us who have two dogs who howl CONSTANTLY as soon as they’re left alone which is virtually all day. The woman is an entitled, thick as mince arsehole. She knows full well that our lives and that of the neighbours on the other side are being made a misery, she just doesn’t give a flying fuck. Sorry you are going through this.

Happyjoe · 03/08/2025 23:19

PlutarchHeavensbee · 02/08/2025 09:59

Totally feel your pain. We have renters next to us who have two dogs who howl CONSTANTLY as soon as they’re left alone which is virtually all day. The woman is an entitled, thick as mince arsehole. She knows full well that our lives and that of the neighbours on the other side are being made a misery, she just doesn’t give a flying fuck. Sorry you are going through this.

Have you tried Environmental Health at your local council? Some parts of the country they can be helpful, just sadly not where I live. Good luck, sounds horrible and not much good for the dogs either..

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Happyjoe · 03/08/2025 23:22

MsMiniver · 02/08/2025 09:58

I got hideous loud neighbours but unfortunately they had bought. 5 sons. Ripping the house apart and doing it up with massive extensions for 2 years. Ripped out my broadband cable when excavating their front garden to tarmac it. Dug up the back garden and raised the level so all privacy lost for my house and back garden. Ripped out a beautiful mature hedge and put concrete slabs up. Dogs barked at us every time we went outside and their cat attacking my cat. Took my parking space. Blasted awful music from massive speakers in the garden on sunny days.

In the end I sold the house and moved. I was pregnant and couldn’t stand putting up with it by that point. I was actually surprised they didn’t try to buy my house and knock through to create an even more monstrous hell palace. They certainly needed the space.

I feel really sorry for you. It’s awful. In your case I would be hoping they will move on, as tenants.

OMG, they sounded awful, inconsiderate, selfish and entitled - you hit the jackpot there! Glad you got away and hope you never experience anything like it again.

Yes, we do want to move, but at the mo dealing with the loss of FIL, and going applying for probate etc. Then hopefully we can sell both and afford a detached house...

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Happyjoe · 03/08/2025 23:26

AuntyDepressant · 02/08/2025 09:51

These things escalate so quickly. I once spent a few hours in a terraced house on a date and that was enough for me to know I'd never want to live in one because you really do hear every single thing from next door. The walls were paper thin. I have to say my sanity would be too important not to move away but of course the problem you now have is you are going to have to declare a dispute to potential buyers.

Yes, it did cross my mind about declaring that when went to the council, in all honesty I didn't expect the council to walk away without at least trying to help, I should've known better.
I hope now they move out because of the music - but I guess hard for them unless they do a house swap. I think tenants can do that?

We moved down south from Yorkshire to be with elderly family, didn't give the noise a thought tbh and for 13 years has been good - neighbours all used to be thoughtful. I don't hear the other side whatsoever, not a thing.

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AuntyDepressant · 04/08/2025 12:29

Happyjoe · 03/08/2025 23:26

Yes, it did cross my mind about declaring that when went to the council, in all honesty I didn't expect the council to walk away without at least trying to help, I should've known better.
I hope now they move out because of the music - but I guess hard for them unless they do a house swap. I think tenants can do that?

We moved down south from Yorkshire to be with elderly family, didn't give the noise a thought tbh and for 13 years has been good - neighbours all used to be thoughtful. I don't hear the other side whatsoever, not a thing.

Exchanges can be difficult in themselves and are not always straightforward. Be careful they don’t turn the tables on you with the music though and put a noise complaint in against you.

hazelowens · 04/08/2025 12:40

I had 2 noisy neighbours and I just played them at their own game when I realised the council wasn't going to do anything, we were all council flats and it was my downstairs and next door that was making all the noise. The next door one complained to the council I sent my kids to bed far too early and they needed to save them!! I'm sure they were 4,7 and 10 and they went to bed at 7.30 but the older 2 could have the TV in till 8.30 and all 3 were early risers so they needed to be in bed by then. The council had to make a show of coming out but we basically just laughed at her. She complained when my ex husband was outside fixing the car and dropped a spanner and she was shouting that she couldn't hear herself think for all the noise. She honestly was not right in the head.

I've since moved and have 2 lovely neighbours that we never hear and they say they can't hear us either so I'm never moving again.

IvyGotAnIdea · 04/08/2025 12:47

You're doing it all wrong – you need to crank the music up the second the noise dies down, such as when they are trying to get their child to sleep. Only when you disturb their snatched moments of peace and quiet will they truly understand how uncompromising they're being by not getting rug etc.

DinoLil · 04/08/2025 13:02

Put your phone on Bluetooth at about 3am and get it to search for available devices. See if they have one you can connect to. Find a really irritating song and play it loud on THEIR speaker so they can be disturbed at an inconvenient time 😁

Happyjoe · 07/08/2025 23:22

AuntyDepressant · 04/08/2025 12:29

Exchanges can be difficult in themselves and are not always straightforward. Be careful they don’t turn the tables on you with the music though and put a noise complaint in against you.

I have recorded the noise they make in my living room many times. If they wish to do that, good luck to them but if the council say anything, I shall explain music is the only thing that drowns them out. I don't live in fear of the council, they are incompetent.

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Happyjoe · 07/08/2025 23:24

DinoLil · 04/08/2025 13:02

Put your phone on Bluetooth at about 3am and get it to search for available devices. See if they have one you can connect to. Find a really irritating song and play it loud on THEIR speaker so they can be disturbed at an inconvenient time 😁

Ha, made me laugh! That would be sooo good. I actually read a good idea the other day and that's to play back the recordings I have taken in my lounge of their child screaming and running throughout the day... and see if they find it annoying... After all, they going to complain about the noise their own child makes?

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