Really want to move

[Justwilliamah]

Our son has got into a very good outstanding secondary that’s walking distance from our house.
Me and my partner have wanted to move from our area for a while now but our son is adamant he wants to stay in our current house and start his new secondary. We really don’t like the area we’re in and want to move further out (potentially countryside territory) so that we can have a more outdoors lifestyle (walking, cycling, country pubs etc). I feel depressed when I think about being stuck here for the next 6 years or so. My partner says there’s not much we can do now unless our son hates the school.
i wanted to add that selling the house would also release some equity for us which would make a difference to our lifestyles too.

I would plan more weekends walking/cycling/ country pubs if that’s what you like to do. It’s a really bad time to pull your son away from an excellent school and isolate him in the countryside.
besides, unless you’ve already sold your house and bought another, the house move will take 6-9 months so your son will have already started school which seems even worse.
consider it again when he goes to college/uni

My parents moved to a house they didn't love to be near our secondary school. Being able to walk to school, walk to friend's houses, meet friends at the park and catch a bus into the larger nearby town was a huge positive for us as teenagers. I would say stay where you are for 6 years and then move, otherwise he could end up resenting you and you'll be his taxi driver for the next 6 years!

This in spades.

Are you and your DH happy to drive your son around during evenings and weekends, so he can see friends? Both drop offs and pick ups. You'll be cutting short those walks and having soft drinks in the pub. Its a lot of years till he can drive. If the answer's yes then go for it. If not then you're being very selfish and underestimating how much this will isolate him.

Don't snatch away his independence when he's just finding it. Move when he's finished school or got a driving license.

(From someone who spent their teens in the beautiful remote countryside and absolutely hated it)

Because it’s not getting the responses she wants…

OP, it’s not a good idea, and everyone’s telling you that.

but you seem hell bent on doing it, so just do it 🤷‍♀️