Why do ppl think they know how you should best raise your child, even those without their own kids!!!!!

[LonelySingleMummy]

Am tired of ppl esp those without any kids of their own making me feel like shit mum for no good reason

I homecook all food and try give him a balanced diet with lots of different colours in a day

I spend all my time and money (what money lol) on him and put him first in everything

I adore my son

i think every mum get this i know i do esp from mil! and even a stranger today over my buggy! and my sister who has openly said that she will never have children as she thinks she would be a bad mother.

dont let it get you down, you know you are doing well for him and you know him best. mums always know best.

Have old ladies on buses been talking to you?

We need details.

Ah don't listen to other people. You know best and that is what you must believe.

People always interfere and think they know best. Just try saying 'thank you, but I think I will stick to my own way, thanks.

Anyway - homecooking food, different colours and money mean nothing really. You obviously love your son, and therefore you know you are doing the best for him.

I've had it too. When ds was weeks old a lady came over to me in shopping centre to tell me my baby looked too hot. Who the f**k asked her, someone else told me to take my baby home and feed him as he looked hungry. Both from people I don't know.
A friend of mine(ex friend) now told me she hopes she not as selfish as me when she has kids just coz I said ds was screaming blue murder in supermarket, but I gotta eat!
I know it's hard but you gotta just let it go over your head, you know how to be a good mum and you know what your baby needs, these people don't spend every second with him. You just gotta laugh and hope they have people like themselves around when they have kids

littleboyblue, that might have been my mum , she did that to someone, but to be fair the poor thing was completely over-dressed, hat on etc and its mum was yabbering away to a friend while the bub screamed blue murder (it wasn't in a shopping centre, littleboyblue, wasn't really suggesting it was you!)

actually I don't mind too much when people do that to me, I'd rather people took an interest in other kid's welfare than just ignore them.

Hi harpomarx, ds was fine, he wasn't crying or anything and I'm a complete worrier so spend half time with my finger down his vest anyway! He had a coat on,but it was cold no hat etc and he had blanket over him coz he asleep. I don't mind other peoples input, but when I ask. It is all a bit much in 1st few weeks and I know people only trying to help, it was more to do with the way she said it really.

jammi I am under loads of stress but other ppl just dont help do they ?! lol

My family were pestering me to wean from 3 months and i waited til son was ready about 4.5 mths. now they whine on that i am rushing him!?! i read every bit of info i can and am always at the clinic making sure i'm not poisoning him or anything

Dont know y it bothers me but it does. Esp ppl with no kids saying you need to do this or dont do that, or i would never... aaaaaaaaaaaargh

lol x

It is horrible isn't it. I'm lucky I live 160 miles from in-laws, but my parents were a bit do this do that at beginning and I tried best to ignore it all from family, friends, strangers etc. and now it has made me so paranoid I have to constantly remind myself I'm doing a good job. I hope you find that piece of mind too, it makes everything so much easier to have that confidence in what you're doing. I think that when you pregnant and in the 1st year of motherhood people seem to think you public property. Saying this I'm on phone to parents everyday asking really silly questions, think that put them off the advice a bit too!

i actually had this from mil today, dd2's feet always look a bit purple, have checked this with midwife and doc who have said that it is normal and some babies are just like that. i told mil this when she concerned that her feet were cold since she has gotten into the habit of pulling off her socks. mil said that her feet must always be cold then if she wont wear socks and has kindly offered to keep an eye out of boooties or socks with fastners on to help her warm her feet i just nod and agree, its easier.

It is so much easier to have opinions when you don't have children of your own. Then you can picture the perfect life with rosy cheeked children who are always happy and well mannered. Reality is not like that, as we all know when we have real chilren.
My trick is to smile and nod when people give me stupid advice, then I go home and do it my way.
Like PP's have said, we all know what suits our children the best. Just ignore stupid comments