To want to go on holiday, then don’t want to go the week before?!

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I always do this. Love and plan for a holiday, happy to spend plenty of money on holidays, want to see new places, really look forward to it etc.

Week before departure, can’t be arsed anymore.

anyone else??

Im sure it’s partly due to the boring side of it - packing, sorting animals etc but even so…..it’s really weird. And I forget every single time.

but surely once you get there, then the faff of packing is worth it? or do you spend the holiday itself feeling miserable too?

Yes I think it's the excitement of planning and looking forward to it, then there's the stress of organizing and getting anxious over things. Hope you enjoy your holiday!

I find I’m super anxious when I go anywhere and i get so overwhelmed of being somewhere new . The travelling causes sensory overload too. So sometimes I just don’t want to go coz I can’t cope with myself when I’m the other end .

I’m like this and I’m autistic. Always have a blast once I’m there

Yes! Currently up since 2am worrying about going away on Friday. I booked a shorter/
closer/ easier trip this year after the stress of last year but still the anxiety has begun… I do usually enjoy it when there but most years a week before, tell myself I won’t do this again! Then I start looking/ planning- I am sure I get more enjoyment from looking and planning than the actual holiday! Maybe I should become a travel agent?!

Good luck and my advice is to write down the worries and also a list to check off and try to go easy on yourself x

I feel seen! 😂

Snap I'm exactly the same!
I think that it's possibly a ND thing as all that planning & organising is very overwhelming.
However as soon as I get in the car to the airport then the holiday has started & I'm having a great time.
Then at the end of the holiday I don't want to come home.

Yep.

hate the few days before when I need to choose clothes etc.

bloody love being on holiday and new places.

I'm also autistic and I haven't been on holiday for almost 12 years, due to various reasons.

Honestly I don't miss it a single bit. Occasionally I miss the ocean, but that's about it.

I can't be fucked with it any more. I don't like new places and I'd rather just relax in my home or local area where there's everything I need to enjoy myself.

The idea of paying for the privilege to go somewhere that won't suit me as well as my home, with all the faff of travelling, and all the inconvenience - absolutely not for me 😂

Are you me?

I get so stressed about the packing. Sometimes I think the planning is the most fun part.

Do you enjoy it once there? That's good at least if you do.

I hate holidays. I get so stressed out about the prep. The packing, the planning etc. but then once I'm there I also worry the entire time about getting ill and the whole thing being ruined or something we have booked to going wrong that I don't have a good time. I also physically get very tired and.bloated from travel, I don't sleep at all well when away from my own bed so find it physically gruelling. The family love it though so I guess that's what matters.

Perhaps when the dc have flown the nest and we could spontaneously decide to fly away the day before it might be nicer without all the build up.

100% me. We’re away now and having a brilliant time but last week I’d have quite happily cancelled, I was getting stressed about the weather, a situation I’d read about the beaches, the long flight (first time long haul as a family for ages) plus all the little stuff that if I just cracked on and did it would be fine but because I’m me I leave to the last minute, packing, shopping etc, then wanting the house to be immaculate before we go, etc etc it goes on. Happens every time. Given we go away a lot I don’t know why I do it to myself 🤦🏼‍♀️

I was like this when the mental load for the family landed on me, now kids have gone, dh and I split the stuff like booking airport parking, day before we chuck stuff in a bag, last minute tickets’passport’money check. It’s so much easier. Now I no longer get stressed.

Ooh this is so me. So look forward to getting away right up until the week or two before and then could not be less excited if I tried 😂

Every time I’m the same - in fact 48 hours before if someone offered me my money back I’d take it every time.
I think as pp a lot of it is to do with shouldering all the mental load of the holiday and worrying that everyone else will enjoy it.
I had 4 days away with work at a conference last year, my secretary booked and organised everything - I honestly enjoyed it more than the 2 week holiday we’d had in America earlier that month 😬

Yes, I’m the same. I think it’s a combination of hassle and nerves. There’s so much pressure to have a good time. What if you don’t?

I think it's made worse by dh actively kicking against the organizing. "I'll pack later". Great! Fucking great that you will at that point, when it's annoying late to sort, we will find out there is no room for your stuff, you don't have half of what you need etc etc.

I'm exactly the same!

The joy for me is in the planning. I get stressed and grumpy with the packing and final details, but I love it when I'm there.

I’m like this. What’s worse is these days, I don’t enjoy the holiday either. I’m not sure why.

Booked to take my son to a theme park in North America, and I'm so anxious about going now. If I knew then what I know now, I never would have booked it. Hopefully it will be ok, but I'm scared we'll be detained

I’m ND and exactly the same. The long term organisation and anticipation of a holiday is fantastic. Then just before I go I feel overwhelmed and anxious and cba about it all.

I find the actual travel (particularly flying) stressful. There are lots of things that could go wrong that impact the journey e.g. taxi not showing up, delays on the motorway, long delays to the flight. This makes me overthink the planning e.g. should I have booked the taxi earlier, what if the suitcases weigh too much, will the passport be ok with that minor crease in it.

Whilst it is worth it when I get there, the balance has tipped a bit for me. This year we are staying at home (saving money) and doing day trips. I'm partly jealous of other people's trips and partly relieved I don't have the hassle.

I’m going on holiday tomorrow and feel similar. I’ve let DH be in charge of all the washing and packing this week, I haven’t even started packing for myself.

This is my DHs view. We have worked hard for a lovely house so nowhere (that we can afford!) quite measures up. I also miss the ocean and wish we lived somewhere the coast was more accessible. I mainly wish I could teleport to a beach resort and teleport home at bedtime!

Snap. I get really irrationally angry and upset about packing and (if I don’t watch myself) kind of punish myself by not taking enough clothes. Some kind of self sabotage?

but yes op I have this , the can’t be arsed stage. I do love holidays though when I get there.