People who just have to take photos- all the bloody time

[adinada]

Does anyone else get irritated by this ?

there is this school mum who acts like a paparazzi at every single birthday party and takes so many pictures. Many of them very unflattering and then sends them to the whole group. ( she hasn’t taken many unflattering ones of me, but some absolutely horrendous ones of others). I mean, very horrendous. Close ups of people eating and eyes half closed at the same time, that kind of stuff.

then there’s my mum who’s also constantly taking pics of herself doing her daily stuff. I take the odd pic too, of something special, but I don’t constantly take pictures of just every day stuff or going for a walk or whatever and send them to people.

I know I sound like a miserable cow, but why does everyone need to take pictures, all the fucking time nowadays ? Also just the general onslaught of the pics then being sent on WhatsApp, either privately or in a group- I just find it annoying.

can anyone relate or am I just extremely miserable?

YANBU. I took like 5 pics of DD's party. Another mum sent me over 100 photos before we'd even got home. Most of them were feet, elbows and the back of kids' heads.

It's bloody intrusive!

You're right. It's gone too far. People even take pictures of their dinner and post it on their SM. Very few people ask if you mind having your picture taken now as well.
I was out cave exploring the other day and was mortified to accidentally get two another spelunkers in a shot. Fortunately it was from behind and their faces were not visible. They didn't mind anyway, so all was good, but people do have a right to not be on your picture roll without consent, especially if you plan to post the photos on SM or send them to other people. It's extremely intrusive to take somebody's picture without asking.
The first person you mention is rude and the second sounds narcissistic. All this obsessive selfie taking is about narcissism IMO. I'm not talking about NPD, but narcissism as a component of one's personality. I will very occasionally take a selfie if somebody asks for my picture and has a good reason (for example if they can't be at my birthday but want to see that I'm happy) but I don't like doing it.

It’s like, if they don’t have 100 pics to document a random day or meet up / play date- then it didn’t happen or something.

i invited said mum for a play date and she took hundreds of pics then too. So fucking annoying.

and my mum has to take photos any time she goes out, for even a cup of coffee with her friends. Or when we go somewhere, she’s constantly asking me to take pics of her. 🤢

It’s so weird. What do people actually do with these photos? When do they look at them again?

@adinada My SIL takes photos of everything they eat on holiday. It’s interesting if they’re having something unusual, but I really don’t need to see their morning coffee!

I don't take many photos and took none at my sons birthday as I was so busy sorting everything on the day. I was actually really grateful for the photographer mums who sent some through after the party! I only saved the nice ones.

Went out with my mum the other day and she took a photo of just herself. I can’t understand it. If you’re taking a picture of the group to remember the day maybe, but just a selfie? It’s quite self indulgent isn’t it.

There's a simple solution to the situation where one person designates themselves as the group photographer & they post unedited unflattering photos of everyone else. Start taking unposed photos of them back!

I have a group of friends & one was forever snapping away when the rest of us were unaware. Often v unflattering mid-sentence or eating etc.

She'd take a group one & take the time to pose herself etc

Now they were only ever shared in our group WhatsApp but even so I hated it

Saying no led to protests of oh we'll lobe to remember this night out / trip etc

So I started taking some - making sure she was in them. And sure enough once she saw a few candid ones of herself she stopped taking so many without us knowing!

I think it's become a bit of a compulsion for lots of people.

I don't really mind it in itself but what really gets my goat is when people whinge about others "getting in the way" or "spoiling the view" of their supposed "perfect pic". This is the world. It has other people in it. Wanting to physically in real life remove what you consider to be excess humanity for the sake of your pixels isn't just ludicrous main character behaviour, it's actually sociopathic.

Being the recipient of photos of very mundane things is annoying too. Oh look you're eating food for lunch. Yes, your pet is very cute. Thank you for the unremarkable scenic shot of somewhere I see everyday. It's attention seeking. If you see something unusual then by all means send me a pic but I do not need to see your lunch everyday.

Spelunkers I actually read as spunkers and had to read that part again as I thought why the hell are guys spunking in caves while other folk are about? What utter weirdos they must be 😳🤣. Seriously though, can you tell me more about caving please? I am a big crystal collector and id love to know more.

YANBU

I feel sorry for some kids as they can't even open a present in peace, without having to pose for a bloody camera.

I hate it too, I have a friend who just won't stop taking selfies when we're out it's really frustrating.

Lmao!
I'm not a serious spelunker so I'm no expert by any means. I have done it several times, but always with a guide in caves that were modified to be safe to explore. I've only ever been in limestone caves and the crystals formed in those are calcite crystals, which can be quite beautiful. Alas, I have yet to see a single one. No doubt any that were there were taken long ago. Sorry I couldn't be more help.

Ugh I have a coworker like this.

she has shared pics of:
going to the dentist esp if it’s her DC
a picture of her ID bracelet at thr hospital
a picture of her and the salesman when she gets a new car
a picture of her driving…anywhere

most of these pics are shared on teams

its so annoying. Well not so much anymore because we had a falling out so luckily I don’t have to be tortured with anymore pics thank god

Have you ever been to the Blue John caves in Derbyshire? I think they'd be right up your street. You can get a guided tour of the caves where you get to see the natural crystal formations. And the gift shop is a crystal-lover's paradise.

Meh….each to their own.

My wonderful dad used to take pictures of everyone, all the time. He was constantly setting the timer on the camera and dashing back so he could be in the picture too. We couldn’t move growing up with having a photo taken….

And now, I thank god he did because he died in February and I’ve got so many wonderful memories to look back at.

School mums taking pics of me eating at a kids birthday party….firm NO!

I have read so much about blue john and I would definitely love to go. I'm from central Scotland so it would need to be a school holiday time to visit, unfortunately the children are not interested in crystals like myself but im working on my 10y daughter, so maybe one day I will get there 😀

Could not agree more. I am so sick of people living their life through a lens rather than living in the moment.

Most pictures won’t be looked at again And it affects everyone. How many times do we have to move out of the way, or wait for the perfect selfie to be taken, or asked to move because someone wants the perfect selfie etc.

I have a couple of friends like this, they take photos of everything and anything and plenty of themselves too
If I'm really lucky they'll WhatsApp me the photos AND post to all social media accounts meaning I get to see said photos 3 times!
I warn them they are not to take photos of me without permission and they are definitely not to post me on socials. I had to change my FB settings so I need to approve things before they post because even if I'm not in the photo but with them, they'll tag me
GTF, nobody else cares about where we've been or what we are doing. Arghhhhh
YANBU