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Double barrelled names future generations?

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Menonut · 27/07/2025 15:40

This is just a light hearted post really, but has anything thought about future generations with everyone deciding to double barrel names now?
Jane Smith & Fred Jones get married and become Mr & Mrs Smith-Jones they then have kids. One of the Smith-Jones kids wants to then get married to a Williams-Taylor, what do we end up with then? The Smith-Jones-Williams-Taylor’s?

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lljkk · 29/07/2025 20:23

Why are people implying 'spanish-language surname conventions are relevant? They are very culturally specific traditions that everyone learns when young, somewhat rigid and also often means the first name if 2 parts is hyphenated or there is no middle name. It's not AngloSaxon tradition to be so rigid.

Kendodd · 29/07/2025 21:00

I have the solution to this!
When people get married -
Women keeps her name.
Man keeps his name.
Kids double barrel.
If parents divorce, remarry and have more kids, parents still keep their own name, kids double barrel. That way kids will always share one name with both parents and any siblings, including half siblings.

If kids grow up and get married, they just keep their own double barrelled name. If they have kids, each parent chooses one name to hand down to the kid so the kid then has a new double barrel name, still sharing a name with each parent.
And so on for the next generation.

You're welcome!

Isitreallysohard · 29/07/2025 21:02

SunnyPrague · 27/07/2025 15:43

I know a kid with a triple-barrelled name.

He was originally Master Smith-Jones but his parents split up and Mummy Smith remarried a Mr Williams.

The kid is now called Master Smith-Jones-Williams

That is ridiculous 😒

Isitreallysohard · 29/07/2025 21:05

I personally don't see the point in middle names, so it would make sense for the middle name to be a parents surname and then to have the other parents name as the surname. Hyphenated names seem so overly complicated, and annoying

Ponderingwindow · 29/07/2025 21:07

People always say they can just start dropping names, but that is a possibility now and exactly what people are trying to avoid by double barreling. Once the name “smith-jones” is created, it is no longer two separate names. It is one name, smith-jones. To drop part of it would be no different than taking the last name Johnson and deciding to just make it John. It’s a choice someone can make, but it’s fundamentally changing the name.

CurlewKate · 29/07/2025 21:14

Ponderingwindow · 29/07/2025 21:07

People always say they can just start dropping names, but that is a possibility now and exactly what people are trying to avoid by double barreling. Once the name “smith-jones” is created, it is no longer two separate names. It is one name, smith-jones. To drop part of it would be no different than taking the last name Johnson and deciding to just make it John. It’s a choice someone can make, but it’s fundamentally changing the name.

Of course deciding to go with one name is an option- as is creating a new name with a partner. I honestly don’t understand why people think it’s complicated. It really, really isn’t.

mindutopia · 29/07/2025 21:37

It feels like kicking the can down to the next generation because no one could have a sensible conversation about it now.

I think too many people do it to make a point about how modern they are at the risk of making life a real pain for their children.

I have the same (not double barrelled) surname as my children, but one of my dc has two middle names. Neither middle name sounded right on its own and one is a family name so we wanted to use it, so we went with both. Think John Peter Matthew Jones. It’s awkward. It doesn’t fit on stuff.

In retrospect, we probably shouldn’t have saddled him with such a silly long name just because we couldn’t decide. But it would be even more ridiculous if it meant his child would have to be John Peter Matthew Jones-Smith Jr. unless he dropped a name that meant something to him.

CurlewKate · 29/07/2025 22:07

mindutopia · 29/07/2025 21:37

It feels like kicking the can down to the next generation because no one could have a sensible conversation about it now.

I think too many people do it to make a point about how modern they are at the risk of making life a real pain for their children.

I have the same (not double barrelled) surname as my children, but one of my dc has two middle names. Neither middle name sounded right on its own and one is a family name so we wanted to use it, so we went with both. Think John Peter Matthew Jones. It’s awkward. It doesn’t fit on stuff.

In retrospect, we probably shouldn’t have saddled him with such a silly long name just because we couldn’t decide. But it would be even more ridiculous if it meant his child would have to be John Peter Matthew Jones-Smith Jr. unless he dropped a name that meant something to him.

My children both have 3 first names and are hyphenated. It doesn’t appear to cause them any difficulties. How do you think it would be a pain?

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