wondering what this ‘friend’ is playing at and whether I even owe her a reply??
it’s complicated!
I met this “friend” at work a few years ago.
I began to see a different side of her. She had a habit of minimising others’ feelings and making everything about herself. She seemed jealous, often excluding people she didn’t like. My friends and I also noticed that she thrived on drama. She regularly tries to cheat on her husband with random men!!!!
she latched on to a friend of ours who was going through a divorce.
because of all of this I distanced myself. Still really polite but I was wary.
When I found out I was pregnant, she effectively dropped me (she has struggled with IVF so I was super sensitive and so so worried I’d upset her…although I’ve had my own struggles with miscarriages and I’m high risk) I didn’t hear from her at all, except for one random message where she commented that my bump looked “neat.” I replied politely, but it felt superficial and out of the blue. She subsequently told friends she didn’t even want to get pregnant.
and she dropped another friend when she announced her engagement.
A few weeks ago, a photo from my birthday (7 of my friends) was posted, and she blocked me on Instagram. I was a bit shocked. I only invited close friends and I hadn’t seen or spoken to her for months.
But just a week later, she messaged me on WhatsApp “You need to enjoy your maternity leave.”
I’m left wondering what she’s playing at and whether I even owe her a reply??
We work together which is one thing but I think the not understanding her intention is driving me mad and I hate to admit but I want everyone to be happy so feel obliged to reply with something nice?
Thank you for reading x