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I left my job for an new one and I decided to message a colleague who I had been close with, just saying I’d love to stay in touch and how lovely and welcoming she’d been to me when I started. But read a couple of days ago and no reply. Would you expect a reply or shall I just leave it?

It's only been a couple of days! Maybe she's busy/on holiday/working out what to say/waiting until she can ask other colleagues if you've messaged them too.
But yes, if she doesn't reply in another few days I would just leave it. Some work friendships don't survive when one person moves on, sadly.

I would send one more in. A few days

I have a friend who is awful at texting. She reads it. Then her sen son disrupts. She forgets / she falls asleep etc

if you get 2 ignored then yes don’t send a 3rd

Equally she may text back and say in so sorry. I’m crap at replying etx

I’d just leave it. There are all sorts of reasons that she might not have replied. However, one is that she’s not interested in keeping in touch - I wouldn’t look desperate by chasing. If she replies, she replies. If not, c’est la vie.

I would have expected a reply, yes.

But if I didn't get one, I wouldn't message again.

What a lovely thing to do, is live to get a message like that. I have just remembered that I got a similar message from someone I used to work with, and it’s prompted me to reply. I didn’t mean to forget but I just got busy - maybe it’s the same as in your case.

God no, don't send another. You sent a lovely message, OP, leave it at that.

I wouldn't message again. If you do, she might feel pressured to reply. You have told her that you are open for contact, so she will get in touch with you if she wants that too, either sooner or later. In the meantime, put it out of your mind.

She may be busy or forgotten and will get round to it. If not, try not to let it get to you. People are very busy these days!
But no, I wouldn’t send another message.

I would follow up because one never knows what someone might be going through that can make them not reply the first time. So I’d personally give the benefit of the doubt and after a week just follow up with ‘Just checking you got my message okay. Hope alls well. Let me know if you’d like to meet up for coffee sometime, would be great to catch up’. Or some such. Then balls just in her court and your conscience is clear (since you’re worrying about it) that at least you did follow up if you never hear from her again.

I'd leave it, I wouldn't be sending another message. Perhaps they don't want to stay in touch.

I wouldn’t message again.

I'm surprised by the number of people saying don't message again - to miss a message or get caught up as a one-off is totally normal.

I would message again and maybe make a specific suggestion to meet up. If she doesn't reply or can't make it then I'd leave it at that. But I wouldn't drop someone whose company I really enjoyed just because of one missed reply

This is my view

This is how I would approach it.

A couple of days isn't long anyway. It's the weekend.