Request from friend

[MumsiesF]

Genuinely would love to know what people think. Friend living abroad for years and comes back to visit DM quite regularly and, if time allows, we try to meet also. Friend has sibling who lives an hour drive away from DM. Friend asked previously if I could help with DM house clear out as does not have car while visiting, involved driving to dump, helping to load/unload my car etc. didn’t mind however took a few hours but thought if once off, am happy to help. Friend txts to say coming back to visit DM and would I be available to do same again. AIBU to feel a little annoyed? Where is the sibling? Sibling has a car, can they not help out? Am I being selfish? Also could both friend and DP not bring car over on ferry and spend a day just clearing together? I have family and value free time when not working. AIBU to not want to do this?

While I agree there's potential for having a good time, and I have always done so, OP's not at all unreasonable to NOT want to do it. Especially since she's done it once so will have a much better idea than us of how enjoyable it will be for her.

I'd say no,shes using you. Could suggest someone who does "dump runs" etc

Fine to not want to do it but I don’t see how it’s wrong of friend to ask. You just say no. YABU to be moany about it. You’re being asked not forced.

Ask why the sibling cant help, or suggest they hire a car. Say you didn't mind helping out but you don't want it to become a regular thing as your time is precious

I think I wouldn't mind if we regularly spent time together and they were generally a nice person and not a user. OP should be able to know what type of person the friend is ... in saying that I don't think OP wants to do it, so she should probably say no

Say that you were very happy to help the first time but are too busy to allocate time for a repeat of helping with clearing out her mother’s house