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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To ask for a glimmer of hope…?

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50shadesofmagnolia · 26/07/2025 18:33

Please strap in cause this might be lengthy.

I need someone to help me find the light at the end of the tunnel.

My daughter is 14 in 2003 she was diagnosed with Disordered eating and Autism at the same time. They said it was not Anorexia but Autistic traits they may have been partially right. Fast forward to Oct 2024 and we realise that she’s lost a lot of weight and on a family holiday I see her restrictions and anxiety around food full force. We then are referred to the ED part of CAMHS (we were already with them for her ASD). In Jan this year she was diagnosed with Anorexia and was close from a body weight point of view to being hospitalised. We have since been in family re-feeding phase.

My AIBU is this I cannot see any progress at all and all hope is fading. I won’t do a poll because I know I’m not BU but I need someone to give me the honest truths. Are there good news stories out there? Do kids get better? I have a child that would rather die than gain weight, I’m feeding her 6 times a day with huge conflict physical altercations the lot and I’m so frozen in a sort of startled state of shock. How is this the answer? How can the only treatment be the parents need to feed her. I’ve read the Eva Musby I’m trying to be this automaton calm person but I am dying inside. I’m working full time I’m trying to parent our other teenager who had GCSE’s next year. How is this the answer? AIBU?

They are talking about medication now for anti psychosis and anti depressants but I feel very unsure of these things.

does anyone have any insights? Sorry if this is the wrong place but I could find a place that it fit in. 🫩

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Myfridgeiscool · 26/07/2025 18:37

Oh OP this sounds beyond tough. I do know someone who popped out the end of this, it’s incredibly worrying, hang in there.

Frenchfemme · 26/07/2025 18:37

Sorry, I have no insight or advice to give, but I just wanted to say you deserve several medals just for getting up every day. I hope someone can give you the hope you need. ❤️

Frlrlrubert · 26/07/2025 20:23

How old is she now? I taught a girl who was hospitalised from ages 13 - 16 with ED/Anorexia. She obviously didn’t sit her GCSEs with her cohort, so instead did them with us (specialist tuition funded via LEA with EHCP), aged 16-18, she was on the path to recovery by that point, with special shake things, but she did fantastically and seemed stable, so there is hope from worse points I would say.

it must be terribly worrying for you though.

50shadesofmagnolia · 27/07/2025 18:47

Hello thanks for the well wishes. It is so so tough. I’m hoping the lack of responses doesn’t mean there are no good news stories. Xx

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