Aibu regarding my parents and visiting them?

[diamondsNhearts35]

Hi I'm wondering if I am BU here. I live a fair bit away from my parents and we mainly make the journey to go visit them as they don't like driving any more. They moved further away a few years ago and downsized too at the same time.
We (myself, husband and our kids) just happened to be in the area today with our dog and I rang to see if they were around for a cuppa. I mentioned I had the dog with me and straight away I was met with no as they didn't want the dog in the house and to call out another day instead.
For context they like my dog, they've spent time in my house around my dog and they know he's well behaved, toilet trained ect and they've in the process of getting a dog themselves. The difference is my dog is a large breed whereas they're looking at a small breed. Im wondering if I'm right to be a bit disappointment here considering it's 6 weeks since we last visited them?

Fair enough IMO. I wouldn't want a massive dog in my house either.

You just happened to be passing with your dog?

Why couldn't you just leave the dog in the car if you're just popping in? Or your husband could take the dog for a walk while you go in with the kids?

My DMs dog has to stay outside (&we sit on the covered patio with him) while we have a cuppa if she pops in on her way back from somewhere, but I have a scared rescue cat. Bit odd they would decline a visit at all unless they don’t have a garden or its chucking it down, but I agree I wouldn’t want a big dog in my house, even if I didn’t have a cat.

We were coming back from a walk near some lakes but we didn't know how long we'd be. As it was still early in the day when we left the lakes I rang them to see what they were doing and if they were home

It's been 22 degrees today. No op could not have left the ddog on the car... On the plus side they won't be fobbing you off with their new pooch with your huge ddog at home.
Stop travelling op. Road goes both ways.

They have every right to not want your dog in their house regardless of how well behaved and toilet trained it is. They clearly don’t want dog hair/saliva all over their house. You should’ve suggested at leaving your dog in the garden/car. Or your partner should stay with it

Whilst generally I think bringing your dog to someone elses house is not really on, given they are doggy people and are planning a dog, this seems a bit twatty of them... ie, 'we prioritise keeping the house spotless over seeing you'.

I'd be less inclined to make special trips to see them, particularly as they chose to move further away. Let them get a bus or train if they don't like driving.

Nah, totally agree with them. I wouldn’t want a dog in my house either.

Whilst I wouldn't have wanted a dog in my house- I am not a doggy person - if you were passing and I hadn't seen you in a while I'd have offered to meet in a cafe/park or somewhere similar for a bit to catch up.

I wouldn't putting myself out for them in future. Infact I'd take them moving further away as a hint that they dont want you / your kids/ dog around them on that basis!

You are not being unreasonable to feel disappointed at all.

They don’t live close to you and you haven’t seen them in 6 weeks. I could never imagine declining a visit from my child who I didn’t see often simply because they had their dog with them. I’d feel hurt, in all honesty.

If you were coming from a lake, did you have a big, wet, muddy dog with you? I can see why they would hesitate if so!

No the dog wasn't muddy as I wouldn't have done that either to them. I totally get them not wanting the dog in their house which is fine and I didn't suggest any other option to them but I think I'm more upset at why don't you's call over again another day to see us.