Message Puzzle

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Sorry posting on AIBU for traffic, although I do know I’m being unreasonable to be checking up on a date I’ve only met once!!

So, I have got a WhatsApp conundrum.

He sent message yesterday morning at 11:06

When I sent message later to him in the evening at 21:40, his last online was when he sent his last message to me at 11:06

He replied at 22:20

I replied and sent voice note at 22:30

Which he read and replied to at 22:50 (no blue tick)

I replied at 22:55 and it was delivered.

However his last online was still 22:30.

How is that possible? And does that mean that even though during the day he appeared not to be online, he could still be messaging other people but not appear online?

I’ve googled extensively but it doesn’t seem to be possible but it obviously is as he’s managed it! :)

The only way I can see is if he read and replied in airport mode but then my message to him wouldn’t be delivered.

Like I say I'm am being unreasonable to overthink this but would like to know if he's a walking red flag!

Anyone any ideas?

I've seen that kind of thing a few times and presumed it was just a glitch at the time?

You're the red flag for being a WhatsApp detective after one date.

I think (not 100%) that when you reply to a WhatsApp from a notification - my phone I can pull down and reply without opening the app - then that doesn’t show as ‘last online’ or being online.

You're spot on there @Shoxfordian! I've more red flags than a Communist Parade! Unfortunately online dating makes you that way!

Extremely paranoid!! :)

Hopefully you're lucky enough never to have had to do dip your toe in the murky pool.

Yep, you're the red flag. Put your phone down and chill out.

It’s not online dating that makes you that way - it’s your decisions and how you conduct yourself! You can’t expect to be finding someone who takes responsibility for themselves unless you do the same.

How would that even make him a walking red flag?

It could be multiple things that PP have suggested but also this can happen with lack of signal.

I'm not sure why it helps you to know if he's been on WhatsApp or not? Just because he's on there doesn't mean he's messaging other women. Just because he's not on there doesn't mean he didn't spend the rest of the day in bed with another woman. Fact is, the guy is a virtual stranger. You have no idea yet of his character or intentions. It's way too early for that to be possible. Answering your messages as he has isn't a red flag, and monitoring WhatsApp will tell you nothing of use at this point.

Chill out! Honestly you're coming across as quite scary.

Thank you @Bodonka!! I've just experimented and that's exactly what it does!

I knew someone on Mnet would know! Who needs AI when you have mumsnet!!

No it doesn't this is on you, if you come across like this to the other person they would run a mile for your sake stop or get help

I feel sorry for this person you've had one date with 🤯

You've met him once and your monitoring of the timing of his messages is overwhelming. You're coming off scary.

Works the same on Facebook too! I’ve noticed this when messaging my DD. She recently replied straight away to some messages I’d sent but was showing as last online almost an hour previously.

Am I just old or do some people seem to make life far more complicated than it needs to be.

This is really odd behaviour from you OP. It’s probably not a healthy approach that you’re thinking about him messaging other people to the point that you’ve gone to the effort of not only noticing but typing out when he’s online and when he’s messaging

I think if you read and reply from eg a watch then it doesn’t show as online?

You are really overthinking this though…