My husband had plans to attend the Ascot races yesterday (Friday). Unfortunately, our son came down with a vomiting bug and had to be collected from nursery. Understandably, my husband was hugely disappointed, but he spent the day sulking and walking around with a face like thunder because he couldn’t go.
As I’m self-employed, any day I take off means I lose income. Despite that, I stepped up to care for our poorly son. My husband’s sulking was so overbearing that I eventually told him to “just go” to the races – I honestly couldn’t face dealing with his mood on top of everything else. I only asked one thing in return: that he not stay out too late or get so drunk that he’d be of no help whatsoever. I just needed a bit of support - some respite - after caring for our son all day and night.
Instead, he came home completely paralytic. He doesn’t even remember half the things he said – which included calling my family (our son’s grandparents and uncles) a “waste of space” and saying that I, sexually, was also “a waste of space”. Amongst other things. Then he passed out on the sofa.
This morning, there’s been no remorse. No apology. I felt utterly disrespected and upset, so I asked him to pack his things and leave. He didn’t even get up with our son, nor did he text yesterday to check on him while he was ill. When I asked for help this morning, he just said, “No, you do it - I’m going back to bed,” because he was that hungover.
He’s now accusing me of overreacting, and told me to leave.
I feel completely heartbroken. I don’t know what to do. I feel deeply sad, unsupported, and utterly disrespected.