To be so annoyed by OH

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Firstly let me just say I love my OH very much. He is a good man and a wonderful provider……. But my goodness he’s so annoying to the point where I’m finding myself not as attracted to him as I once was. It’s not even when it’s my time of the month either. It’s all the time.
everything he does he does in such dramatic style it’s embarrassing. When he takes his asthma inhaler it’s like something out of a hospital drama. He can’t just take it quietly and quickly, it’s a whole dramatic and very loud event.
then there’s his nose blowing. It’s that loud that it’s frightened babies when we’ve been out. Again he makes such a song and dance out of it. I’m not exaggerating when I say I have to pause the tv when he blows his nose as otherwise I can’t hear a thing. And he doesn’t just blow it when he’s got a cold, it’s all the time. Eating is another dramatic and loud event that makes me drier than the Sahara desert down there 😂.
The crumb situation does my head in too, if he finds little bits on the carpet for example, he’ll pick it up and put it on the side…… why not in the bin?!!
AIBU? Or do other people feel like this with their OH?

You’ve got the ick. Sorry.

I think you’re getting the ick OP ……

I wouldn't have found any of that attractive, so wouldn't have gone past date 1.

If you're not married and he's a 'provider', are you dependent on him for housing/money?

He pays for the most of the bills yes. I work as much as I can with our 21 month old taken into consideration. very hard for OH as my ex husband doesn’t pay for our two children, he does a wonderful job of providing for them even though it’s not really his job too. But I wouldn’t say I depend on him no. I pay my way when and where I can.

I think OP means this lightheartedly… So, hold the LTB!

Here, it’s Man Flu “pass the smelling salts, oooh I’ve turned into a dying Victorian laydee, mop my clammy brow, while I helplessly sip sweet tea” combined with a loud cough-up-lung cough.

Inability to close cupboard or wardrobe doors. They just stay open.

Spitting phlegm / toothpaste into the sink & not washing it down.

Doing the washing up & leaving food debris stuck in the plughole.

There’s more… He’s so annoying! Yes, I am perfect. Thanks for asking!

🤣😂🤣😂 Oh he sounds like a sweetheart though how he’s pulling along with your 2 DC in tow and not complaining. Can’t you just ask him to ‘tone it down’?! He may not realise how performative at times he’s coming across without meaning to! And when he does his carpet picking just tell him it makes you irrationally angry and to stop it 😅.

You will though first need to identify some of your own bad habits you can give up also so that he has motivation to change! Hope it works out!

My DH who passed away very suddenly last December coughed, laughed, blew his nose and sneezed all like a fucking foghorn. Oh how I miss it.

My DW coughs so loudly and dramatically it actually gives me a headache. I dread cold season!!

I’ve tried asking if perhaps there’s any need to blow so loudly? I just get the “well I need to blow my nose, how else am I meant to do it?”
and when I talk to him about the dramatic asthma inhaler he tells me that it’s now the asthma nurse showed him to do it. Honestly he’s going to put his back out one of these days- he throws himself back that far when inhaling!

I’m very sorry for you loss and thank you for giving me another perspective xx

Don’t get me started when he’s ill. It’s man flu to an extreme 😂

😂🤣 oh dear, on the plus side, I love how you word his antics and your frustrations - you’ve proper made me laugh out loud and cheered me up anyway! 🙂🙃