Men have differing standards of hygiene

[ellie09]

I am convinced of it.

I thought it was normal to shower daily, change bedsheets at least once a week, general cleaning around the house but it seems that every single man I have been with does not share the same sentiments.

My DP does not smell - let me say that first and foremost. But he takes a shower once every few days? Which would make me feel incredibly icky.

Bedsheets. He would happily change them weeks and weeks later. I am the one reminding that they need to go im the wash every Sunday.

Laundry. He will happily wear tops or bottoms that he's dropped food down, where as I would need to put in the wash and wear something new. He waits until he has almost 3 loads to fill to wash hos clothes, and I do laundry twice a week.

General cleaning. I thought it was standard to wipe down surfaces after cooking or do some household activities daily, especially cleaning the toilet etc. He can go weeks without doing anything.

Its not even my current DP, others I have dated have kept their houses in a much worse state than mine, or sprtiz on some deodorant rather than get in the shower for 5 mins.

Ive come to the conclusion that most men simply do not have the cleanliness and hygiene standards that women have.

All my exes were as you describe, probably worse. My father was immaculate until his 80s.

I had one ex who was always very particular about his hygiene... Turns out he was gay!

My grandad who is 80 also has very immaculate hygiene and cleanliness.

Maybe its a generational thing.

No. My husband is hygienic almost to the point of OCD and I've know women who are very careless of hygiene.

A penis washed only every few days wouldn't be getting anywhere near me.

It's not a man thing at all.

My husband is very clean, thankfully (i have dated smelly blokes)

I think most of them think it's a women's job. They pretend they can't see dirt and mess but secretly they prefer living in a clean home, they just don't think they're the ones who should have to do it.

I’ve never dated or lived with a man that behaved like that. This includes brothers, flatmates, my father, etc.

In relationship terms, I think you get what you’ll accept. And I wouldn’t be with someone who didn’t have a basic level of hygiene.

I agree on a population level, there will always be the odd obsessively hygienic man and the odd scruffy woman but generally speaking I don't think men spend as much time as women cleaning themselves or their home.

My partner is much better around the house than I am.

Even the men who live alone that I knew, lived in absolute mess.

Then they're waiting until they can rope in a woman to do it.

Yuck. No my DH is not like that. He showers everyday, sometimes twice and his house was clean and tidy when we met. He continues to keep our house clean and tidy now.

My DH has better personal hygiene than me - he will shower at least once a day, he sometimes has to remind me I should hose myself down
Neither of us is changing bedsheets weekly.

Every single man I have ever dated or been in a relationship with has been like this (or worse!). Even my brother,who is so fastidious in himself (showering daily, washing hands before eating etc) goes weeks without cleaning the toilet or doing a bit of vacuuming.

I do not smell - usually. But I tend not to take a shower more than every other day, it feels unnecessary. I will have one if I am going somewhere in particular (I wfh).
Bedsheets - 2 weeks.
Laundry. I do when it needs doing, but if something isn't dirty I of course wear it again.
General cleaning. I wipe down and that's about it. We do have a cleaner.

I think being overly 'clean' is a complete waste of time. Good enough is good enough.

As a bloke I totally agree.
I do draw the line at wearing food-stained clothing tho'
(or any other stains, come to that)

The alternative view of course would be that men aren't generating unnecessary amounts of work for themselves/ the household. Bedding really doesn't need washing weekly, a person who is doesn't smell on their current schedule clearly doesn't need to shower daily.

Do you not respect yourself enough to NOT put up living with and presumably be intimate with a man that has poor hygiene and questionable clothing standards and laundry habits?

Stop settling for creatures like this please, it does no one any good and promotes rewarding substandard males.

It’s a “get what you settle for” thing.

No man who didn’t wash everyday or wear clean clothes would get the opportunity for a 3rd date let alone live with me.

All the men in my life regardless of generation have the same standards of hygiene as the women.

@ellie09 Well yes all men have differing standards of hygiene and so do all women.

So im struggling to see any point to your post, I know a lot of girl friends I have had that are far worse and messy than many of the guys I have dated and my DH is always the one to do the washing and cleaning.

I know lots of hygienic men. Some of what you describe is gross, but your standards for changing sheets ATLEAST weekly are higher than mine. Fortnightly is fine for me.

Remember when they used to put bowls of crisps or peanuts on the bar in pubs. It was generally stopped because they were covered in man piss. Men don't wash their hands after the loo very often and, in my experience, have lesser standards of hygiene.

I change sheets weekly and often pillowcases twice a week but I am a dribbler!

Ooof! , I couldn't be with someone who doesn't take care of themselves.My husband is ex military and good personal hygiene and keeping your living space clean and organized has been drummed into him.