feeling pathetic after turning down a great job due to fear

[Novemberrain10]

I have wrote a few threads on this before anyone berates me but my emotions are all over the place.

I was offered a new job elsewhere that sounded amazing, but as I have been at my current workplace for a significant amount of time, I ended up turning new job down due to imposter syndrome and worrying that if it doesn't work out I've lost out on security of old job and a decent payout if its not so secure anymore.

I'm now starting to feel pathetic for not taking the leap and starting to resent my current job ( even though despite me casually applying elsewhere) i was happy enough at current job.

My friends and partner have been amazing and supportive but they were really encouraging of me for going for new job ( i think they know how insecure I am and need encouragement ) and i feel so pathetic telling them I got cold feet.

I just feel pathetic and stupid

It’s normal to get cold feet if you haven’t moved for a while. Can you reapply for more jobs now that you know what you are worth?

I think your reasons for turning the new job down were valid. I don't mean that you should never get another job, but clearly you weren't confident at the time and if the new job had felt 100% right for you at that moment, you would have taken it. It's not wrong to value the security of a longstanding job, it's a case of weighing that against a new opportunity, and in this case the scales didn't quite balance for you.

As pp said, carry on applying for jobs - you've had good experience from the job you declined, you know you put together a good application and performed well at interview, so take it as a positive and a stepping stone to getting where you want in your career.

Have you considered applying for a new job internally in an area that excites you, or would be a promotion? The best of both worlds if that's an option.

Aww, it’s normal and I’m certain I’d be the same 😊
Just remember, I guess, that you must have applied for a reason in the first place.