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To think my friend is just jealous I bought a house?

8 replies

YourNavyHelper · 25/07/2025 13:21

I bought a nice house last week, nothing flashy, just a lovely home I worked hard to afford. A friend of mine (and her dad) came over to drop something off, and since then, all she’s done is point out things that "need doing" around the place.

No "congrats," no smile, no "well done", just comments like "you'll need to fix that" or
"that'll cost you." I'm not losing sleep over it but it felt off. My mum said it sounds like jealousy.

For context: we're both 32. She still lives at home and isn't in a position to buy. I've known her for over 10 years, which makes it feel a bit sad. I wanted to share the win with her, not feel like I had to defend it.

AIBU to think some people just can't be happy for you, even close friends, when they're stuck in comparison?

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AllotmentHappy · 25/07/2025 13:23

I would just not invite her round. Sorry but at 32 and atill living at home she could of saved for her own house, shes just jealous.

CreationNat1on · 25/07/2025 13:24

Sounds like a moany drainer, pissing on your parade.

CreationNat1on · 25/07/2025 13:24

Congrats by the way.

DiscoBob · 25/07/2025 13:27

Yeah, it's probably jealousy. Unless she's some kind of professional builder and is offering to fix your home up for free?

Just ignore her. You've done amazingly well to have your own property. Sadly in this day and age many people your age don't. Or never will. But that's not your problem.

ThejoyofNC · 25/07/2025 13:27

Call her out on it. It's no way to behave.

Buying a home is becoming a real achievement for a lot of people these days and there's no need for her to be so nasty.

DiscoBob · 25/07/2025 13:29

ThejoyofNC · 25/07/2025 13:27

Call her out on it. It's no way to behave.

Buying a home is becoming a real achievement for a lot of people these days and there's no need for her to be so nasty.

I think calling her out is kind of pointless. She'll deny it's jealousy anyway.
Ignore it and know that some people can't help themselves when they get a bit jealous.

Zempy · 25/07/2025 13:30

Unfortunately yes, it’s jealousy. Ex SIL did exactly the same thing when we bought a large doer upper.

Recently I lost four stone and a “friend” who is very overweight has been really nasty to me (not actually about my weight loss) and I know it’s jealousy.

Horrible to deal with.

Hankunamatata · 25/07/2025 13:36

She eother jealous or something people just have negative personalities that suck the joy out of things

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