Would it be bad to set up a fake facebook account to try and catch my husband out when I suspect him of a historical affair?
a little background
married 20+ years, gradual behaviour change, stopping affection things like that, drifting apart with our activities, didn’t really notice at first because of life, but when I did it was so obvious , a year ago he removed me from his social media, which he said he shut down, but I’ve since found out I was blocked, said he doesn’t love himself or me anymore and would like to be on his own/ leave and live on his own, he craves solitude ( long hx of MH issues) , but still we are continuing to having great s* and actually much more since this all started, and 9 + months on he is still here but it’s definitely not what it was despite the s*…very disconnected from the whole family, even as a parent, claims it’s mental health, which is 100% likely, had a long Conversation at the time about my suspicions about little things I’d found making me think he might be having an affair, but he gave very plausible explanations even said I could ask the person directly, still kick myself that I didn’t , now it feels to late to bring it all up again or ask her but for some reason my brain has opened the wound… so a fake facebook account later, true to his word he hasn’t posted anything in nearly a year, birthday wishes have gone unacknowledged etc, but should I friend request her to see if there is anything that might confirm my concerns , or should I leave well alone. I will be devastated if I find anything but this uncertainty is literally driving me mad
so AIAH for thinking about playing facebook detective and what should I do with the information if I get it